ok to make a long story short....he is always saying that I am the one for him but yet, he talks to a lot of other girls online and on the phone. I am supposed to be marrying this guy and I LOVE HIM and dont hide anything from him...HELP
2007-03-15 18:27:05 · 10 answers · asked by sunshineprincess1988 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have you talked to him about this?
He sounds like he is with you but meanwhile he is still shopping around see what's out there. He doesn't seem like a guy who is ready to settle down. You may want to give a second thought about marry him.
2007-03-15 18:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mochi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you have found someone you can love, BUT this guy does not sound like he is totally in love with you, Sweetie. Have you told him it's fine with you that he has other "girl-friends" that he can stay in touch with? What are you calling a "lot of other girls on line and on the phone?" I understand his having had some friends that are girls for a long time and his wanting to keep them in his life, but watch out for his adding new girls to the friend list! If they are both of your friends, that's OK too. Please play it smart, IF you constantly nag or worry about his girl friends, thinking he is cheating on you, that's exactly what will happen eventually. Tell him how you feel, w/out accusing him of anything improper, that you have told him everything & it sure would be great if he could do the same for you! Have you talked w/your girlfriends to see how they feel about him? Listen to them, they might be a better judge than you are about him. Maybe, maybe not. Since I do not know any of you, I can't say for certain. Do be careful before you get married, it is a life changing step!!!!
2007-03-15 18:50:04 · answer #2 · answered by Cyndy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welllll, IMHO, he may care for you, but with him talking to lots of girls online, and on the phone....that doesn't say much except he's continually looking incase he thinks he's going to find a easy piece, or someone that he thinks is better. Or whose to say he's not having cybersex....?
Girl, don't you know how to set up a fake account online and look him up as "Sheila" or "Stacey"....and see where the conversations leads you too.....if you don't have the guts to do it, get one of your friends to do it for you. Archive the messages where you can see for yourself, once you know what he's doing online...than you can make a decision.
But if you have no faith in him, or trust...than there is no need to start a marriage off like that. Think long and hard about that before you say..."I do". Its cheaper and easier to get married than it is to get divorced.
2007-03-15 18:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful with this one... he can be a playa out for your money and wealth...
Be very careful.... get someone to spy on him if he does something out of the usually like kiss another girl you have to make a decision if you still want to go for the marriage...
2007-03-15 18:33:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jean Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in love with someone but I still have a lot of friends that are female, online and over the phone but its not like that. It is possible he just has a lot of friends who are female while its rare it does happen.
-NmD!
2007-03-15 18:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps he loves you but still wants to makes friends. If you really care about what he needs, just let him do, as long he's open to you.
2007-03-15 19:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by Siezee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really sound like he does not know how he feel. if he so
in love with you then why all the the other women he talking
to , that a sign of things to come. i would talk to him about
what is really going on. especially if you are planning ot marry
this guy.
2007-03-15 18:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him and do it now. its only gonna end bad.
i was your guy at one point doing the same to my ex. and i was always cheating and lying. he sounds like a version of my past.
2007-03-17 00:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by LS 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hold it . don't look to good to me. you give it time lots of it. looks bad you are the only he should be with all THE TIME AND NOT THE OTHERS
2007-03-15 18:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some space.
2007-03-15 18:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by woptie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋