i am with my patner and when it comes to time of having sex it is just not enjoyable for me anymore. after having my 2 kids with i am not the same i don't look as good as what did. is it me or or please help....
2007-03-15 17:44:49 · 13 answers · asked by mum of 2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sit down and talk with your partner. I'm sure they find you just as attractive as they did the first moment they met you. if you aren't finding sex as enjoyable as it once was, try experimenting with some new things... toys, places, positions, etc. I'm sure talking things over with your partner will make you feel all that much better! I wish you luck!
2007-03-15 17:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by canadian_cowgurl04 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes it probably is at least partly you by the sound of it. You seem to be self-concious, and this probably caries over into the bedroom. When you're going to have sex, really try to block out everything but feeling good. If you're concentrating on how you look the entire time, you're not going to enjoy the sex. I'm sure your husband loves you, so relax and have some fun.
2007-03-16 00:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by Wildernessguy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you and your partner should talk and find out what each of you can do to make things better between yall in the bedroom. Try going to a sex shop and see how that works it doesn't have to been anything that is over the top. Also watch Talk SEx..it comes on Sunday nights on Oxygen
2007-03-16 00:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not enough details. Do you love him the rest of the time? Is everything else good?
Write down on paper whats good and whats bad. Try to figure out what makes you feel this way.
2007-03-16 00:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel he isn't doing enough to please you, talk to him and let him know what he needs to do.
Otherwise, it sounds like you're the one with the issues. You're obsessed with your looks and how your partner may perceive you. If he's still into you, you shouldn't be worrying about those things.
2007-03-16 00:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by brotherb95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple...you like sex or you don't.
You like your body or you don't.
The later is easy to change and with you changing your body (I'm going to assume weight problem) your sex drive mat return. Maybe not but change yourself so you feel good.
2007-03-16 00:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok, it happened to all of us who had kids...but you should have faith in your self and look as sexy as you can it will make YOU feel a lot better and once you feel wanted the sex drive will come back
2007-03-16 00:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell- ask or guide- show them what to do. It will make you feel better in the long run.
2007-03-16 00:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by todd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your partner and try experimenting with some new things.
2007-03-16 01:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just change your appearance and be the person you are before you have kids.
2007-03-16 00:50:34 · answer #10 · answered by marinda 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋