My husband and I have been married for 5 years and I knew for a while that he liked to wear women's lingerie during sex. About a year ago he told me that it goes farther than that. I found out that he has been leading a sort of double life. He has been looking at several websites with CD men wearing women's lingerie and posed with their legs open, etc. He has also joined a lot of online groups for CD's. In order to save our marriage, I told him I was fine with it. Now we have a closet full of his CD clothes and 3 drawers full of his panties and lingerie. I feel like it is getting out of control. I don't know what to think anymore. Sometimes I wonder if he is gay and just doesn't want to tell me. I love him very much and just want my "guy" back. Last month I caught him IMing with another CD and talking about the things they could do together sexually. It made me sick!
Am I the only one experiencing this? Are there any groups that I can join that will help me deal with this?
2007-03-15 17:33:20 · 11 answers · asked by Texas Girl 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
these girls have links on their websites to support groups.
http://nikaaskini.com/
http://www.reneereyes.com/
being a crossdresser doesn't necessarily mean being gay. sexuality is who he is, sexual orientation is who he is attracted to.
bottom line, sounds like you need to find out if he is just a cross dresser, or if he may actually be transgendered or transsexual.
if he still enjoys sex with you, then he's not gay. but he could be having issues about his own sexuality. could be he thinks he is a woman trapped in a man's body.
if he is expressing sexual interests in other people, then he may be bisexual or pansexual, but more importantly, he is showing signs that he doesn't want a monagamous relationship with you.
2007-03-15 17:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I very much doubt you are alone, I have known loads of CD's, but normally they dont be with other men or talk about sex with another man.Could it be that your husband bi and using the CD to attract other men. Those I have known are usually faithfull to their wives and very nice loving men. I don't know of anywhere in the USA where you could chat to someone, but here in the UK there are quite a few places that deal with this kind of thing. Why not put gay or CD's in your search panel and see if any addresses pop up. I am sorry I cant be of more help to you. Good luck.
2007-03-15 22:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would get out of your marriage or at least have a long talk with him. Regardless of the crossdressing or not, if he is deciding to have sexual conversations with other people, then that speaks volumes, as it's still cheating. You seem to have gone out of your way to make this work, but is this sort of thing what you really want to continue to deal with for the rest of your life? It doesn't seem that this is going to stop anytime soon and my impression is that you aren't the most fine with it. If this is the case, it is probably best for both of you to go in your own separate directions and live the lifes you both want, without any unnecessary compromise.
Best of luck.
2007-03-15 17:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by Reginald VelJohnson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, no matter what gender he is IMing and talking about sex, it is still a form of cheating on you. He obviously does not have any respect for you at all. You did not mention how your sex life is, so I'm assuning it is suffering due to his concentration on CD males.
If you really want to try and save your marriage, I would suggest going to a marriage councelor with him and talking about everything.
If nothing changes, you will have two options.
1. stay married and ignore (I do not recommend)
2. get a divorce.
2007-03-15 17:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by Jay S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not trying to be religious here, (OK I am) but it specifically says in ... Romans... something or other. that men dressing like women is wrong and strictly forbidden. Now skaters just wearing their trademark pipe legs, is ok... but this is.... odd.... I don't know of any groups but serious talking to would help.
2007-03-15 18:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by spinelli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My X was into that I made mention of it and he got rid of the stuff kinda he tried to hide it and had lied about alot of other stuff so we eneded up ending the relationship. He I found out latter went full flegged into it and is in that community whatever it is. I personaly think its kinda nasty. I think that there needs to be communication and if he isnt meeting you needs and is making you miserable do something about it
2007-03-15 17:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by KarmicFacilitator2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u ever heard of boy-cut or boyfriend khakis? They're totally for women but made just like a boy's pants :p. I can't remember what brand it was though... (sizzling swirl next to smily face)
2016-03-29 00:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love Cross dressing I love wearing women's brief panties and women's pajama pants and women's shorts and women's socks and I love painting my toenails I feel girly girly and I feel so sexy and hot
2017-01-29 22:25:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just one of those sex fantasies. maybe you should dress like a men during sex?
2007-03-15 18:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so bad for you... I think it's time for a divorce... don't you think so...?
2007-03-15 17:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋