My best friends man has been calling me a lot and texting me and hella gurls have told my best friend 2 be careful with me cuz no one knows wat could be happenin while talkin or texting. But were not doing anything wrong we respect each other so wat should I do?
2007-03-15 17:31:36 · 28 answers · asked by Gamecutie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I need 2 leave it really clear dat i have not intention in being wid him or taking him away. My best Friend knows about it and she says dat she trusts me. I never want 2 loose her friendship!
2007-03-15 17:50:23 · update #1
...but will he respect you in the morning?
2007-03-15 17:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Pooks 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do it all the time, talking on the phone...we are just friends.
My wifes best friend would ask if she could "borrow" me for the night to go dancing or drinking or whatever. We are just friends and so many thoughts from so many different people thought we were banging each other but it wasn't true.
Eventually it got to the point that we did quit going out together without my wife because of it. People have so narrow minded opinions.
Sure, I guess it could have went to the avenue of us sleeping together but we both said our friendship is more imporant then a sexual affair.
Using text is different. You can make a joke and it won't be taken like a joke.
2007-03-15 17:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the three of you should sit down together. discuss boundaries, and make sure that both him and her understand that you have no intentions of being anything other than a friend to him. if the three of you are on the same page as far as that goes, then who cares what anyone else says about it. tell your friend that you understand they are in love, and that the only reason you are wanting to talk to him, is so that you can get to know the man she loves. tell her that you want to be close to him so that you can all three be friends! make sure that she knows how much you respect her and cherish your friendship, and that you would never even have the desire to take her man.
2007-03-15 17:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by waterlily750 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me - this is a very important concept for you and your friend to understand! NO ONE CAN STEAL A MAN THAT DOES NOT WANT TO BE STOLEN!!! With that said, no matter what your intent is with him, keep talking to him! If your friend is that insecure that she feels she can't trust you or her man then she needs to get rid of one of you and seek counseling for her low self esteem! If her man shows interest in you, he wasn't that interested in her and is probably not that good of a man for any woman! If you show interest in her man then you are not that great of a friend nor that respectable of a woman! Point is, you should not think that it is wrong to be friends with this guy (if that's all you want) just because your friend is insecure. On the other hand, if you have other motives, you should really consider your friends' feelings and the impact it will have on your relationship. Play nice!
2007-03-15 17:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by CurlyLocks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's a bad idea b/c you could be giving him the wrong idea if you continue speaking with him. Also, I don't think your friend will appreciate it very much. You should think about it like this... if you have to question weather or not it will make your friend uncomfortable or even risk losing the friendship and if it isn't something that you are telling her, then it's wrong. There are plenty of other phone buddies that you can have...why does it have to be your best friend's man?
Think about it.
2007-03-15 17:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by WORLD FAMOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to talk to your friends boyfriend or husband but it is wrong to go any where past talking just keep the talking to a minimal, like maybe one phone call a month.
I Really Hope That This Helps!
Good Luck!
2007-03-15 17:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by jessika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's inappropriate, it just looks bad. I know it may be harmless and you guys may be friends,but I'm sure your best friend means a lot more to you. I'd keep my distance. You're not his gf ,so calling and texting a lot just looks extremely bad on both your part and his. If you respect your best friend you'd stay away from her man. #1 rule don't get to close to your best friend's man.
2007-03-15 17:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by jade_143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, make sure that your best friend is TOTALLY, 100% cool with it. Second of all, make sure he has no intention of getting with you. Last of all., if he calls, call your friend on 3 way. If he texts show you friend. And forget them people, they are just bored with their life and need some one to hate on. That's why I'm glad when people gossip about me, it just means their jealous.
2007-03-15 18:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by k_carthran 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put an end to it and just talk to him when your friend is with you. Your friend should respect you for having the ability to take charge and manage the relationship on your terms, not his. You're inviting trouble if you continue the way you are.
2007-03-15 17:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u have not done anything wrong, but the timing is rotten. U don't have to tell your friend that u are talking to her man on da phone, she may become suspicious. Relationships are troublesome as it is and no one wants to add suspicion to it.
2007-03-15 17:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
out of respect for your 'best friend' you should cut way back on the talking and texting with her man
2007-03-15 17:40:46 · answer #11 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋