We have been going out a long time now, but now I am starting to think that my girlfriend might be a femanist.
When we are in public and a hot girl walks past, she always points her out to me, and says things like 'wow look at her', or 'get a load of that'
She likes watching pornography with me in bed, and she gets the most excited from the girl on girl stuff, she talks a lot about having a threesome with another girl, and I really want to aswell, but I am worried that she will like the girl more than me.
Its great having an open minded girlfriend, but I dont want to lose her. What should I do?
2007-03-15 16:53:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, it's not that uncommon for girls to check out other girls. Honestly, why do you think girls get all dressed up for stuff like proms, and weddings and stuff? Hate to break it to ya, but it's NOT to impress YOU. It's to impress and out-do other GIRLS. Yeah, they check each other out all the time. Why do you think girls have such high jealousy factors? Why do you think they read women's fashion magazines. They want to see who's "hot" and then try to out do it. It's natural. I know it doesn't make sense to you (if you're a guy) but that's just the way the female mind works.
And yeah, I know a lot of straight girls that like girl on girl porn. In MY opinion, the female body is more of a work of "art" than the male body is and it's nicer to look at. It's not all hairy and sweaty, it's smooth and soft and comforting.
Or....maybe she is a lesbian, but I don't know if I'd call her a feminist. Feminist and lesbian are two TOTALLY different things, although a lot of feminists are lesbians too, but one can be a feminist without being a lesbian. It's about female empowerment, not sexuality.
2007-03-15 17:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by I_color_outside_the_lines 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
feminist is someone who fights for women's rights, equality, and in some cases, will express views that women deserve more or better than equality in order to find a fair balance in society. i'm not seeing any indication of this here.
i do see potential bisexuality here though, as well as a lack of commitment to your monogamous relationship on her part.
inviting a 3rd person into your bedroom for sex can cerainly complicate your relationship a whole lot, and yes, if she happens to be a lesbian and not bisexual, an experience with another women (whether in private or in a 3some with you) could allow her to find her true self, and she may discover she is a lesbian.
i'm not one to encourage 3somes, but i would encourage you and her to have a serious talk. sounds like she needs to do some soul searching. ask her if she is really attracted to you, or if she is a lesbian who is only dating you as a cover up.
2007-03-16 00:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend was a feminist, she wouldn't notice the physical beauty of women because that would be objectifying them. And the principal point of feminism is not to objectify women.
REALLY, why in the heck do you think attraction to women has anything to do with feminism? The title of your post makes no sense. Your gf might be bisexual. There is an outside chance that she is a lesbian. This is like asking "does my gf like women's folk music?" Why not ask the REAL question: is my gf bi or lesbian?
2007-03-16 00:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by rgeleven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lmao she isnt a femanist she is Bi or Bi-Curious she would let you know if there was a problem. Feminist is someone who hates men. and sounds like you have some insecurity problems I wouldnt be overly woried most women like communication so talk about it . if you have a very solid and open relationship I wouldnt worry about it plus it can be fun watching. And if she is a cute red head chick you can deffinantly introduce her to me ;)
2007-03-16 00:47:57 · answer #4 · answered by KarmicFacilitator2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feminism is usually about human equality regardless of gender. I've never heard a feminist say that feminism is about homo-erotic feelings.
as for your fear of loosing her
1) communication is key. Talk openly and honestly about your fears. Encourage her to talk openly and honestly with you.
2007-03-16 00:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, i think that you are a little confused between "femmenist" and "bisexual" a femminist is someone who supports equal rights for women and women being equal to men (men can be femmenists as well) bisexual is someone who is attracted to both men and women. and just talk to her about it, i know it's diffcult, but it really is the best thing to do...
2007-03-16 00:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look up "feminist" on the dictionary, its a stereotype you're falling for...
All that sounds like me when I was in the closet...
sorry honey...
2007-03-16 01:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Fashionista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's bi and polygamous, not necessarily a feminist.
2007-03-17 22:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋