stressed and depressed?

Question

my paretns are going crazy on me. i try so hard to please them bu one thing after another isnt good enough for them..im 15 and the give me NO freedom everyday i cry and feel i am about to explode.. bc im a girl that needs indenpnce..i long to go to school everyday [crazy i no!] bc my parents constenetly tell me im not good enough and im a SHAME OF A DAUGHTER!! im so hurt i want to be responsible,, impess the, and be able to hang out with my best frned again { they get a bad "vibe " from her so we cant hang out. i also want to get a car in the near future..this wont happen bc aparently im a "wild child" not realy tho, i never have don drugs n i dont drink..how can i convice my parents for FRRREDOM..i think ill die if i dont get it soon. im sick sick sick of crying and watching other poeple party outside my housewhile i study spanish
ive had ENOUGH
and if anyone can think of ways i an have fun behind there back pleez tell me
the direction to freedom, indepence, and good grade to i guess

Answer 1

Hi, Im sorry to hear that you are going trough all this pain. I understand you becasue I went trough soemthing kinda similar. Well, you are not a shame of daughter, you are taking responsability of yourself by going to school and not getting in trouble, your parents are making a great mistake by not letting you enjoy your adolescence, it is kidna like a transition between childhood and adulthood and it is prefectly ok for you to enojy it as you become little by little more independent.
Can you talk to another adult, like a councelor???? Maybe she or he can talk to your parents and make them realize you need that freedom before is too late and you have to start to be an adult and never have a chance to experience your adolescence.

Answer 2

i completely understand, but the best thing you can do right now is live for you. get good grades for you, learn to care about what you think about yourself. parents are people too and unfortunately alot of the times they are the product of people who also didnt know how to be parents. life comes with alot of stress and many people dont care about whats right or fair. they only care about what makes them feel better.

dont sneak behind their backs because that will only make things worse. also, the more you try to do better for THEM the more you will be living for THEM. find places that are fun, that are also academically acceptable. like a tutoring program that maybe you can get some friends from school to join also, or a club where you can make some new friends, or get some people to volunteer with you. itll look good to your parents while youre also out having fun with friends. and itll look good on your college applications too.

Answer 3

It sounds like your parents are really strict on you, I think you need to prove to them that you really are a good student and try to work hard...but your emotion situation is not good...Try and join an after school activity like sport ...and every now and then ditch it and have "your time" .....where you can hang out with friends and think and have SPACE!

Hope all goes well

Answer 4

You could work on your spelling and grammar. Make a deal with them, better grades for more freedom. Cleaner room, ask them what they want and then give it to them.