Why is it only heterosexuals who maintain that being gay is a choice? Do they think we all?

Question

collectively lie when we say it's not? If they do--why on earth would we lie about it?

Answer 1

I'm a transsexual..let me tell you about MY "choice".
Yes, I did CHOOSE to do something about being trans, and fixing this problem but I did NOT choose to:
have people call me "IT" like I'm some kind of inanimate object.

Be beaten up in my high school parking lot after school.

Be "exiled" from my high school gym class because I made a girl "uncomfortable" by just looking in her direction.

Have the entire police force make fun of me and ridicule me when I was arrested and strip search me 5 times "just to make sure", and "moo" at me. (apparently this was symbolic of "bull dyke")

Have my entire transgender status, to include my full name published to about 22,000 students at my college campus when I got arrested.

I don't CHOOSE to question which bathroom i should walk into every time I have to pee.

I don't CHOOSE to live a life where I'm called "bull dyke", "it", "freak" or any other demeaning term.

Now ask yourself, why would ANYONE , "CHOOSE" to live their life that way?? Man, if I could take a magic pill and be a straight man, I'd do it in a heartbeat.

Answer 2

I think it comes down to the Fundies , being the same way the Nazi's were in 1936. Things were bad for Germany and they had to blame someone, so they came up with the rhetoric and the BS propoganda to sway everyone else in to thinking that Jews were the thorn in Germany's side, WHICH THIS WAS NOT THE CASE!!! Same with the Gay issue in the USA today, things aren't all like THEY want it to be. They are being exceptionally stingy in wanting a USA that fits their parameters only. To do that, they feel behooved to scapegoat and play the blame game on people who are different than they, inorder to have an excuse for their hatred and rhetoric. They say its a "choice" because admitting that its a DNA design would take away their "power" to play the blame game. Its that simple folks.It would also mean that since its a DNA thing that the Divine Creator made it that way, hence, a direct contradiction to thier entire belief system and dogma.

Answer 3

I am straight and I honestly don't know either way - if it's a choice or not. I have a friend who is a lesbian but I've never really talked to her about it. I agree with you guys though that only someone who is gay would be able to let us know. I don't think it's right that straight people think they know whether it's a choice or not, since they don't have to deal with it. I have mixed feelings on this, which is why I don't lean either way. But my point for answering is that I do know a gay guy who thinks it was CHOICE and I have a straight relative who thinks it's NOT a choice. So I think it just depends on the individual. Don't let any straight people get you down just because they don't understand or think it's wrong. We're all the same! :)

Answer 4

I'm straight and I don't think it's a choice. I akin it to heterosexuality. When I was a girl and started having sexual feelings my body and brain reacted to guys. The same thing happens for gay people except they respond to the same gender. It's not a choice or anything you can control. Especially with all the homophobia and harassment gay people have to deal with I'm baffled why people think it's a "choice". Stupidity seems to run rampant in our society.

Answer 5

Some could change their minds when confronted by facts, but they will most likely look for another excuse or reach for another illogical reason to support their personal prejudices.

The president of Louisville's Southern Baptist Theological Seminary recently said that scientific research "points to some level of biological causation" for homosexuality in his blog and in a following newspaper interview said "I am absolutely confident that a large number of homosexuals are telling the truth when they say they did not choose that orientation."

Unfortunately he also suggested that there should be prenatal treatments for mothers to suppress homosexual children. When Christians who say that abortion and stem cell research are wrong and then say that genetic engineering regarding homosexual children should be allowed shows the true irrational dislike that some so-called Christians have towards homosexual people.

Answer 6

The only choice you can make is whether to live as a homosexual or not... people can live a lie - and completely believe the lie too.

Answer 7

I just don't get it. and, as many times as we see the same ignorant comments and questions in these forums every day (and hear them in our every day life), it never ceases to amaze me. and yet, if we turned it around and asked them the same questions about being straight, they act appalled! did they choose to be straight? were they born that way? what "turned" them straight? why can't they believe in the truth, in facts....instead of lies, assumptions and stereotypes? because they can't handle the truth! it doesn't back up their irrational hatred. (and why, for the love of God, can't any of them spell???) that's why I'd love for the "fundies" to all read this....even though they just would'nt get it....




answer these questions?
see how you feel afterwards
HETEROSEXUAL QUESTIONNAIRE


(©1972, Martin Rochlin, Ph.D. Reprinted with permission from the author.)

This questionnaire is for self-avowed heterosexuals only. If you are not openly heterosexual, pass it on to a friend who is. Please try to answer the questions as candidly as possible. Your responses will be held in strict confidence and your anonymity fully protected.

1. What do you think caused your heterosexuality?

2. When and how did you first decide you were a heterosexual?

3. Is it possible your heterosexuality is just a phase you may grow out of?

4. Could it be that your heterosexuality stems from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?

5. If youve never slept with a person of the same sex, how can you be sure you wouldnt prefer that?

6. To whom have you disclosed your heterosexual tendencies? How did they react?

7. Why do heterosexuals feel compelled to seduce others into their lifestyle?

8. Why do you insist on flaunting your heterosexuality? Cant you just be what you are and keep it quiet?

9. Would you want your children to be heterosexual, knowing the problems theyd face?

10. A disproportionate majority of child molesters are heterosexual men. Do you consider it safe to expose children to heterosexual male teachers, pediatricians, priests, or scoutmasters?


11. With all the societal support for marriage, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?

12. Why do heterosexuals place so much emphasis on sex?

13. Considering the menace of overpopulation, how could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual?

14. Could you trust a heterosexual therapist to be objective? Dont you fear s/he might be inclined to influence you in the direction of her/his own leanings?

15. Heterosexuals are notorious for assigning themselves and one another rigid, stereotyped sex roles. Why must you cling to such unhealthy role-playing?

16. With the sexually segregated living conditions of military life, isnt heterosexuality incompatible with military service?

17. How can you enjoy an emotionally fulfilling experience with a person of the other sex when there are such vast differences between you? How can a man know what pleases a woman sexually or vice-versa?

18. Shouldnt you ask your far-out straight cohorts, like skinheads and born-agains, to keep quiet? Wouldnt that improve your image?

19. Why are heterosexuals so promiscuous?

20. Why do you attribute heterosexuality to so many famous lesbian and gay people? Is it to justify your own heterosexuality?

21. How can you hope to actualize your God-given homosexual potential if you limit yourself to exclusive, compulsive heterosexuality?

22. There seem to be very few happy heterosexuals. Techniques have been developed that might enable you to change if you really want to. After all, you never deliberately chose to be a heterosexual, did you? Have you considered aversion therapy or Heterosexuals Anonymous?

Answer 8

Its foolish to think its a "choice". If it were a simple choice, Mr Straight, could you choose to be gay? Not likey! It disgusts YOU but for some screwy reason you think other people can put aside their disgust and be gay. You WANT to believe its a choice so you can indulge your hate. Its so obvious!

Answer 9

I don't understand this either! I mean if they believe that we chose to be gay, do they also believe that they themselves chose to be str8???
I mean they would have to believe this because that is their sexual orientation just as being gay is our sexual orientation! It does not matter if you are gay, str8, bi or transgendered you are born with your sexual orientation, it is not something that develops or is created or changes as your grow! Yeah sure before you reach a certain age and that is different for all people you are not a sexual creature and yeah as you are growing up you may try sexual things that are not true to your sexual orientation but that does not mean you are of that sexual orientation that you tried that sexual act of! Like I mean if you are str8 and you tried some sexual activities with another guy once or twice that does not mean you are gay! Just as if you are gay and you try some str8 sexual activities you are not str8! I was married to a women for 11 years and during those 11 years I had to have sex with this women I married! I made a mistake, I made a commitment to somebody that I should never have done and felt I had to live up to my commitment! I never liked it and I always felt so bad after I had been sexual with my X wife! I was born gay, I just could not come to terms with my own sexual orientation and so I pretended to be something, to be somebody I was not! Being married to a woman and being sexually active with her did not make me str8 tho - I just did something I felt I had to do and I never wanted to nor did I ever like it! In 11 years I never initiated having sex, she always had to ask for it and I would always be, "OMG No!"
Being against gays is so systemic that a lot of str8s and as one other commented especially the religious right will never change there minds about what they believe!
JAC<

Answer 10

I've had that discussion with way too many people. I can't understand that point of view, try as I might. If sexual orientation were a choice, you'd better believe that I would be one straight man.