I dont think Im gay- but Im good looking and most people would not guess that Im a virgin but I am. Im starting to think something is wrong with me and Im propably gay in denial. But part of me just thinks that I think Im gay because if I was gay I would be having a lot of sex. But I want to have sex with a hot girl and it hasnt happened but I could have sex and lose my virginity with a lot of average girls. Im also worried that when I finally have sex it will be a terrible experience because I am so inexperienced and the girl might know- and I do not want who I lose my virginity to know Im a virgin. I want to have sex with a girl- and If I dont like it and realize Im gay thats fine. Ive heard of gay guys having sex with girls before. So even if I realize Im gay- but Im propably just bi- I want to have sex with a girl soon! Its driving me crazy. My friend who is 22 lost his virginity a month ago and he seems so much happier and has sex almost every day. Help me!!!
2007-03-15 16:36:43 · 13 answers · asked by I s 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
awww! youre so sweet. but no i dont think youre gay. i like it when guys take sex serious and not just like some game. keep it up, your first girl should be someone that matters and you want to spend your life with. dont worry, if the girl is right then your virginity shouldnt be a problem. stop freaking out, this is minor, at least you dont have herpes or something.
2007-03-15 16:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by meju 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quit thinking so much. If you want to have sex with girls, fantacize about girls, and masterbate thinking about girls, you are not gay. If you also get turned on by guys, you are bisexual. Lot more bisexuals that gays- who are not attracted to females.
Just because you are a virgin does not mean you are gay either, that's just a silly idea. Toss it from your head. Ignore anyone who says that, they are stupid.
Lower your standards, you are being a little too arrogant when saying some girls are average and you should only have a hot girl. If you could get a hot girl in bed, and she really wanted you to do her, you'd have lost your virginity a long time ago. If you have girls hitting on you, quit being picky and get laid. No reason to wait, it is not some grand exciting life changing event, just another life experience. Go buy some condoms and then look up the girl that is most interested in you. Everyone screws up the first time, but so what, I assume you at least know what to do when you get the opportunity, if not, you need to have a serious talk with your recently defiled friend.
2007-03-16 09:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you don't need or want to have sex with anyone until you find out who you really are... and what your preferences are! Don't base your sexuality on a one night stand with anyone! Many, many people are virgins for a good reason... standards, moral values, integrity and choices,
like saving that part of yourself for a special and committed relationship... like marriage! There is no reason why you should be feeling like it is wrong to be a virgin at your age,... I think it is better that you are taking care of yourself and not having to worry about things that some people do, like STD's or HIV... So...... maybe you should really find something that you enjoy doing... like hobbies, activities, and develop some interests in something besides worrying about having sex with someone just to be happy.... your friend might be happy now, but will it be lasting and real when he finds out he is going to die of some transmitted disease??? Wait till the time is right and the person you want to be with is also right! When it is the first time for both of you and you are together, it doesn't matter if there is any experience involved, love works all those things out and you can learn and love together! Good luck!
2007-03-15 16:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by MaggieO 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen carefully, - it does not mean you are gay. It means you are decent. (Ok everyone out there, it does not mean that if you are not a virgin at the age of 21 that you are not decent, it just means that he may be decent). Also, what I suspect is happening to you is that you are really worrying about what everyone else is doing and what they are thinking about what you are not doing, and that you are turning yourself into a nervous wreck about it. And if this is the case, you are probably going to cause your own terrible experience because of this. All you have to do is forget what anyone and everyone thinks about what you are doing, or about what they are doing, forget about what they say, just focus on what you want. Focus on how YOU feel about it. And someday, when you experience your first time, enjoy it! And if you find that you are gay - then be gay and enjoy that too! But don't forget - BE YOURSELF AND FORGET WHAT OTHERS THINK, JUST RESPECT YOUR CHOICES WHATEVER THEY MAYBE, relax and enjoy!!!!
2007-03-15 17:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Aww, you're so sweet. I am 17 and still a virgin and waiting until marriage. And whomever I marry needs to be a virgin as well. I want someone that has the will power to save himself for his wife. It just sounds like you have great control of your life and have your priorities in order. Wait for that special someone, trust me is she is the right one for you, she will 100% appreciate you being a virgin.
2007-03-16 03:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by Horsetrainer89 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to have sex with men, you're not gay or bi.
And it might be a terrible experience for the girl, but you'll probably enjoy it so who cares? Just give oral for awhile and she'll probably tell all her friends about you.
2007-03-15 16:42:24 · answer #6 · answered by Vegan 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Id say you wenrt gay, but you want your first time to be special. Dont rush anything though, nothing wrong at all with being as virgin.
2007-03-18 04:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probaly not gay, I think you're just really shy. find a girl that's interested in you, get to really know amd trust her, and take it slow and easy.
2007-03-15 16:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by Kalvin G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you fantisize about guys?if not then your not gay.hell i was 25 before i had sex and i wasnt gay.i just made up for loss time,when i started lol.
2007-03-15 18:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to get laid dude. Nothing is worth stressing over like that. "Just do it" means you.
By the way... don't worry about what sexuality you think you might be.. at the moment you are neither gay, bi, homo, straight or whatever.... you are in limbo. "Just do It". You don't get two chances at being 20 years old... go on... do it. You waiting for that pretty girl to show up?... trust me... she forgot about you many moons ago (or should that be moans).... thank heavens.. at least one of you won't be so strung out... you will be so self absorbed into your own sexuality that you will forget about the pleasur eof the company you are with... just do it.
2007-03-15 16:52:58 · answer #10 · answered by Icy Gazpacho 6 · 1⤊ 5⤋