ok i found out my husband cheated when he was on vacation mind u we havent ever been on a vacation together (no honey moon)when i asked him about it he denied it and now he tells me i could go and get another guy to have sex with isnt he telling me he cheated by doing this?
i think he thinks that by saying this 2 me it makes us even! whats in his mind? i dont know!
2007-03-15 16:34:44 · 16 answers · asked by brazilianG 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girl you need to get rid of this man right now. Yes he has/is cheating on you and you need to ditch him before he brings Aids or herpes home to you. Don't you deserve better?? Men will do to you what you ALLOW them to do..
2007-03-15 16:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what he says to you....about what he is "allowing" you to do....I wouldn't feed into it....
I would like to say that men are easily frustrated....
The truth about it is that they do let things go more easily than we do...whether he did something wrong or not....they are nothing like females in the fact that we need closure to situations....
I would suggest that you try counseling....It doesn't mean all of the negative stereotypes of what marriage counseling means...and get a mediator for the situation....
It will help you all to get out all of your feelings and get down to the truths about what is really going on beyond the whole adultery issue....
Definitely don't take the pass...because you never really know why he communicated with such an answer of frustration....
There is no real telling why he said that ... and I have learned that it is never safe to assume what a man is thinking or responding to....
2007-03-15 23:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by LIFECOACH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is admitting to cheating by telling you this. He wants to justify his behavior by saying, "you did it too!" He is not worth it. Dump him! He clearly is not interested in you anymore and doesn't care. Trust me, these are the first signs of divorce. He is leaving or you are on your way out! I say, save yourself and leave. He will know what he had. He sounds very imature. and if you don't have kids, don't. Not until he grows up or you do it with one who loves you and respects you enough.
2007-03-15 23:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mir3lla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hes feeling guilty, so by you having sex or cheating will make him feel better. Or maybe he wants to have an open marriage.
2007-03-15 23:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that he dose think that by you doing this you will be even and no I don't think that it is right. I’m sorry that you are going through this. Talk to him about it and tell him that you don't want to go have sex with someone ells.
2007-03-15 23:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by szlightning31 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a line of bull a mile long. He's guilty. Get proof and divorce him and take every cent he's got.
2007-03-15 23:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweet! You got a "Get some Dcik Free" card.
2007-03-15 23:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know either this guy clearly doesn't love you. Try getting professional help!
2007-03-15 23:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 wrongs don't make a right
2007-03-15 23:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by forbiddenfruit9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is just saying that... if you follow up on it he will freak
Tell him to get it together or else
2007-03-15 23:47:53 · answer #10 · answered by bubbba2u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋