Is it wrong to read your childs blog page?

Question

One of my children has a blog on myspace, i found out he was useing stimulants. it run's in my side of the family's past history.
I know the dangers of them. How do i confront him without looseing contact with him?

Ps, he lives out of state with his mom. I don't want to loose contact with him.( But i don't want to see him harm himself either. )

Answer 1

try to talk to him frequently....
and when he's ready he'll open up to you.

Answer 2

Well Dad, it sounds like it's time for a trip to see the boy, don't you think? You posted this earlier. I don't think it's wrong to read your son' s myspace. I locked my son out of myspace for two weeks because he wouldn't add me to his friends list. I wanted to see what was going on there.

You really need to talk to your son. Easter vacation is coming up. Buy him a ticket to come to you. A boy needs his father, his mom just isn't going to do it. Set up an appointment to take him to talk to someone in your area about the effects of using. I am certain that if you look, you will find something. Call your local crisis services or something like that and see if they can point you in the right direction.

Do some Internet research and learn about the stimulant he was using and the experiences other people had with them. Call the mom tomorrow and tell her that you are really concerned and that you think he needs to come out and be with you for Easter. If she cares, she shouldn't have a problem. Waiting until he comes in the summer is way too long. If you have financial problems for the ticket, maybe mom can go in on half. Best of luck.

Answer 3

Well- if he is old enough to have a myspace page and use drugs then he is old enough to be confronted. Maybe that is why he put it on there- b/c he is crying out for help? It is your job as a father to help him with this problem.
I believe that it all depends on how you confront him - and how you react to the things he tells you- If you cut him down or make him feel alienated then he will not talk to you.
Basically, If you have a close relationship with him I would talk with him about other family members and what has happened to them- the consequences of using drugs for his future, family, and friends. And then bring up what you have found out- and tell him you want to help- and not only tell him ways such as treatment, programs- but offer to attend with him- give him someone to lean on and that he can count on through the whole experience!!
Hope this helps!!

Answer 4

My youngest has one and I do check it from time to time. I am not trying to invade her privacy but she is 14 and as a mom I feel I have the right. I look for evidence of problems that she may not be discussing with me but I have been fortunate. It is the usual rants about school and social activities. If it was something as serious as drug use, you bet I'd be all over her. If the mom does not know then maybe you should clue her in. If she cares, she will share the same sentiment of getting your son help before any thing terrible happens. Good luck!

Answer 5

you as a parent have every right to keep track of your children on the internet, you should have a talk with the childs mother first,then both of you together havea sit down talk with the child, many parents dont even care about what their kids do on the internet, thats why so many things happen in the kids life..please be a PARENT and do whats best for your child.

Answer 6

Post as a kid his age and tell him the dangers. Kids sometimes listen to other kids their age.

I Really Hope That This Helps!
Good Luck!

Answer 7

Its wrong not to.
-NmD!