I dont think Im gay- but Im good looking and most people would not guess that Im a virgin but I am. Im starting to think something is wrong with me and Im propably gay in denial. But part of me just thinks that I think Im gay because if I was gay I would be having a lot of sex. But I want to have sex with a hot girl and it hasnt happened but I could have sex and lose my virginity with a lot of average girls. Im also worried that when I finally have sex it will be a terrible experience because I am so inexperienced and the girl might know- and I do not want who I lose my virginity to know Im a virgin. I want to have sex with a girl- and If I dont like it and realize Im gay thats fine. Ive heard of gay guys having sex with girls before. So even if I realize Im gay- but Im propably just bi- I want to have sex with a girl soon! Its driving me crazy. My friend who is 22 lost his virginity a month ago and he seems so much happier and has sex almost every day. Help me!!!
2007-03-15 16:32:18 · 10 answers · asked by I s 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
First of all being 21 and being a virgin is not an indicator of being gay.You would be considered gay if you would feel attraction to guys. But if you like girls,that your not gay buddy. Im younger than you and im a virgin, and it is actually good to be virgin.Why give up your virginity with any girl, when you can wait and do it with the women you actually love and care for? Dont pay attention to all the comments people might tell you.Be yourself,be cool and be virgin all you want.
2007-03-15 16:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by Whiskers 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. Just because you're still a virgin does NOT mean you're gay.
You're NOT the only virgin guy on Earth, you know. I know of virgins who are older than you.
You should wait for the right girl to have sex with. Just having sex for the sake of having sex with "hot girls" is asking for trouble. You don't need to get any STDs, which your friend has a high chance of getting right now having sex so often.
A girl who REALLY cares for you won't care if you're a virgin or not. Being a virgin will NOT matter. You'll be respected, not repulsive.
My first fiance (who was murdered) was a virgin when I met him and I was a virgin then too.
Stop worrying and get looking for a decent girl!
2007-03-15 23:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tara662 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only you trruely know the answer to that question! If your attracted to girls then I doubt your gay!!! I do believe sex shouldnt just be meaningless but perhaps a few one night stands are the way to go? If your drunk then I doubt the girl will know any different!! the more you worry about it the worse it'll become. I find that if you just let it go, things start to happen by themselves... Do you perhaps have a friend who is a girl (that you can trust) you can talk to her about it and perhaps she can "help" you. perhaps she would be so understanding as to have sex with you, just so you understand... I know I would be more than happy to help you in this situation, if you were a close friend... anywho, dont go around thinkin that your gay, if you were you wouldnt be thinkin bout havin sex with a hot girl would you? but if you find out that you are (and this is a long term process for most people) thats perfectly fine! I wish you all the best!!
2007-03-15 23:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Thats just the society we live in, people think its wrong or you're gay if you haven't had sex, but theres nothing wrong with waiting. Just do what you feel comfortable with, if you want to have sex now or a couple years from now thats cool. Just because your friend is happy doesn't mean you'll be, sex isn't a recipe for happiness, trust me!
2007-03-15 23:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you know what you're feeling about your sexuality. You'll have sex when the time is right. When the right moment and person come along, it will happen.. I don't think being a virgin at 21 makes you gay. If you fantisize about other men, ... that might be an indicator.
2007-03-15 23:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole R 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
hold on to you virginity. why rush to getting your heart broken, getiing STDs, having HPV and not knowing it but you can pass the dirty virus to females in which HPV can cause cancer. A lot and I mean a lot of boys and young men LIE about having sex. they just dont want to feel left out. Ask a older man or women how young boys lie just to be cool. when the right time comes, you will have sex. focus on your education. dont listen to all of those liars. if they are having sex, good for them. why do they need sex to be happy. are they depressed and lonely? when you do have sex, always use a condom. and if you want to be bi-sexual that is your business. just practice safe sex. really abstinence is better.
good luck
2007-03-15 23:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by averilyn06 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The simplest way to decide is to examine what you fantasize about when you masturbate. If you imagine having sex with men, you are gay; if you imagine having sex with women you are straight. If you have mixed fantasies of having sex with both men and women, you are probably bisexual.
Whatever you are, it is fine not to have sex until you are ready; and it's OK to be straight, gay or bi - these are all natural orientations for humans (and also for about 450 animal species!!!)
2007-03-16 12:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with bieng 21 and a virgin, as for the gay part if you get turned on looking at a guy then you are gay if not then no.
2007-03-16 00:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jason Bourne 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
HAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHA, NOOOOO, your not a homosexual. WHAT AN INSULT!!!!!!!!! I am a 24 year old guy and a virgin and never been kissed or had a girlfriend, and I like girls and always will. I hope to get married some day, WITH A WOMAN and then HAVE KIDS FROM HAVING SEX! ;-)
Oh and anyone being a homo. is just a crazy idea to me, men and women fit together like-"hand in glove", "plug in wall socket" if you get my drift. ;-D The MAIN purpose of having sex is to make babies, not for just the pleasure which is just something that happens from doing it.
2007-03-15 23:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 6⤋
well just hire a hooker i guess if its killing you so bad or just wait it out and if ur wanna have sex with a guy then do it
2007-03-15 23:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by Aarian 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋