many of you gave great advice. i just wanted to clear something up. i don't care about money. i am a teacher at an inner city scool. i care about integrity, about making a difference. i don't care if i'm the bread winner, i just want to be proud of him and his efforts. i just see other guys and how ambitoius they are and wish he was like that . one the other hand, he has a lot of great qualities that other men don't. i just wonder, are you ever %100 happy with all of your spouse?
2007-03-15 16:31:19 · 8 answers · asked by imperfectly 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you are wishing he was like other guys, I'd say don't do it, great qualities or not; may not always be 100 percent happy with spouse 100 percent of the time (probably 99 percent) but I am 100 percent accepting of all of his ways; don't think you can change him or that he will change; he is what he is, either accept or don't.....
2007-03-15 16:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We live in a materialistic world. People want better things and that's what drives progress. If it is not a bigger house, it's a bigger car or a vacation. Money isn't everything but it is the cause of many problems because of lack of it.
Some wives wish their husband could be executives making lots of money but be home at 6 to help take care of the kids. No such luck any more. It is no more unrealistic than a man coming home expecting to see a perfectly tidy house and dinner ready. Most people are working extra hours just to keep their jobs. Older employees face layoffs. Teachers are worried about budget cuts at their school districts. Our livelihood revolves around money. Anyone who turns a blind eye on that will be hit with unexpected hardship.
2007-03-15 23:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you can ever be 100% anything. There will always be "something" that you can't fully accept about a person (your spouse), but it doesn't mean the relationship isn't worth pursuing. It sounds like you've got a good guy on your side....and if you love him (you've said you do), then marry the man. Just be sure to keep the lines of communication open at all times...and love eachother. :)
2007-03-15 23:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by MammaBravo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being ambitious is one thing, being that AND yourself is something most people don't accomplish very well. A fore-instance: My first wife said she loved me just the way I was, until we got married. Then the great "Change my new toy" project began. Little things at first, little suggestions about my cloths, my apperance, and such. The it got bigger, no more hanging with the boys, no more doing what I wanted. I was what she wanted, when she wanted , how she wanted, where she wanted it. That started the fall into our divorce. My new wife not only tells me she loves me like I am, she shows me she does by supporting me in everything I do (no matter how stupid or juvenile she thinks it is). I don't make a lot of money but I'm happy with what I do, and my wife is PROUD of me and my efforts. Except him for who he is, love him for who he is, be proud of him for who he is.
2007-03-15 23:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by Tuner 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you ask this because I need to vent a little I hate playing games against my husband he cheats so damn bad! And thinks that he is justified! Okay sweet heart everyone has faults and you seem to know what is your spouse fault. There are times I must admit my husband pisses me off! But then the good times always cover for the bad ones because we have a lot of good times. I love him and I know that you love your fiance' to be getting married to him.
There will always be bumps in your marriage and there will always be the good parts in your relationship. As they say love comes in all shapes and in your case this is what it is...
Marry the man and make him happy for the rest of his life you are just experiencing the little jitters we all had before the big day!
2007-03-15 23:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Real relationships have ups and downs, no matter how great you are together.
You can never be 100% happy all the time, but you can be satisfied and secure ALL the time.
2007-03-16 00:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by phoenix_rising_28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad was scared to marry my mom at first. and he TOLD her after prposing (that was smart) she gave the ring back to him, refusing to marry a man with cold feet, but the next day he showed up with 3 dozen roses and told her he cant live without her.
I guess everyone gets nervous. and sometimes not everythings perfect, but hey. Love is Love, and you have to learn to cope with your spouses good/bad traits
2007-03-15 23:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by Beanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's up to the both of you its how you both want to live. happy or what. life is what you make it
2007-03-15 23:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋