There's a woman in our university who teaches us Stylistics. I only missed her class once. So today I was sitting in a classroom and there she was passing by. The door was open so she'd noticed me and beckoned me to come out. I thought she'd just ask me why I missed her class yesterday, but instead she sort of bawled me out for missing that class. It wasn't nice... She had thrown a bunch of emotional trash at me and left feeling better and quite satisfied with herself, I'm sure. And I'd been all bummed out about it for the rest of the day. Perhaps her negative energy had nothing to do with me, I'm aware of that, but it doesn't make me feel better. Now I have a real dilemma in front of me. I may not attend her class again, though it'll be tricky, but I think I could do that, or I may continue going there and pretend nothing's happened but then I'll feel like a moron anyone can vent on whenever they like. Simply put, it'll make a damage to my self-esteem. So what should I do?!
2007-03-15 16:16:17 · 7 answers · asked by Smiles 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
You went to university to learn, so learn a lesson from this.
Dumping her class and leaving will teach you nothing except that you give people power over you and reinforces the behavior of running for your feelings.
You missed the class, not the end of the world, means nothing about you as a person and you've learned one of the biggest lessons of higher education. People can be total #*&^@_s
Get your butt back in there, do your best in the class, if she gives you grief again, deal with it. . Don't let other people control your life and your emotions. You didn't get into a university by being dumb, use your knowledge and skills on yourself and grow.
There are likely resources on your campus, use them.
2007-03-15 16:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some, learn from it and don't take it personally. Your boss will probably make you feel the same way eventually. Mine makes me feel about an inch tall at least once a week. I've learned that I can't take it as an attack on my character. On the other hand I'll be the first to call someone out on issues that I feel was handled inappropriately. I hold people accountable when dealing with anything that will negatively affect me. But you must choose your battles wisely. Some are worth fighting for, while others will turn into more than you are prepared to handle! It is up to you to choose in this situation. I would attend class and make an honest attempt to correct what she told you and if she continues this behavior then by all means stand up for yourself.
2007-03-15 19:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by mac_attack_51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should continue going to class. If it has nothing to do with you, things should just continue as normal or she may feel guilty and (though probably not) apologize. It's never a good idea to stop going to class, even if you're confident, because you may not realize how skipping class can have on your grade. And it gives the teacher an excuse to drop your grade. I know some professors just suck, so unless you grade starts dropping for unknown reasons you should just try and stick it out. Ultimately, the choice is yours. Good luck.
2007-03-15 16:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by Bridi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it was very rude of her to do that to you. You attend a University, not a high school. Anyways, now that you know her views on attendance you should try to make sure she knows you are not able to attend class a certain day and ask if there is anything you should do to make up for it. Ultimately it is you money and mind that are the ones being affected. She should not scowled you for not attending if you can't make it.
2007-03-15 21:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chewing you out for missing class is rare but not being slighted (unless you have a different definition)
You missed something you were suppose to be present at.
Consider it a lesson , getting you ready for real life in the employment world.
There is a lot of butt chewing there and being hyper sensitive will mean lots of lost jobs.
Say , whoops , my bad and let it go at that . . .
Toughen up, this is not a Candy Land world.
2007-03-15 16:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should come to her after class and ask her about it. Tell her that you don't feel comfortable being accused like that, and that it makes you feel uncomfortable. Unless, of course, she is the type of teacher that just won't listen to you. Then you might want to talk to someone hired to help students to see what you can do as far as switching out of classes, asking her to change her ways, etc.
2007-03-15 16:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and get over it. You are acting kind of immature for someone who goes to university.
Part of your responsibility as a student is to showup to class.
It hurts you not her if you do not show up for class.
2007-03-15 16:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋