Me and my step mom haven't talked to eachother in probably 2 years and we live in the same house, i know it hurts my dad deeply which hurts me deeply, but despite him it still drives me crazy. i cant watch tv in the family room basically and its awkward when i have friends over. when i go out to eat with them its weird for me and my dad. i cant imagine that it doesnt affect her at all, it must, but she doesnt show it one bit. She is very cold and opinionated. both of her kids moved out early due to fights and no longer talk to her. I dont want to solve everything i just want to feel comfortable in my own home really. what is some advice because it hurts me deeply.
2007-03-15 16:02:38 · 12 answers · asked by soulrebel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I went through a period where we talked for maybe a year or so, because i started to say hi to her and be nice, but she was always so mean to me i just got sick of it and stopped, she was only nice to me if i was nice to her and sometimes not even then. they have been together for about 7 or 8 years and its always just gotten worse.
2007-03-15 16:16:59 · update #1
be the bigger person and break the ice, speak to her politely about non-consequential things; it will make you feel better and make your dad feel better.
2007-03-15 16:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your Dad out on a "date." Go for a pizza and then talk and listen... Ask him what you should do? Ask him how? Ask him to help. Perhaps ask him to talk to your stepmom for you.
It's obvious you are both being hard on each other. Is it really necessary? Have you asked yourself what you expect from her? She doesn't have to be another MOM to you, she can be your Dad's wife. And having said that you need to show her some respect. If you hurt her, you are hurting your Dad.
Cut her some slack, she is not going away. Come to terms with your feelings and then move on. Tomorrow is a new day for a new beginning. Make it count!
2007-03-15 16:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia D 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, I know it can be hared. In my life it is my step dad and the only talking we do is when we fight. And I know it hurts my mother to, I do think that counseling idea was a good one and I think that you should give it a try. Because that will show you dad and your step mom that you are willing to give this relationship w/ her a try.
2007-03-15 16:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the situation truly hurts you "deeply"---then you need to sit down with your Dad & Stepmom, talk about it, and work it out!
It sounds like you never made an effort to know or welcome her----can't you be the bigger person and offer the olive branch? For your DAD'S sake?
2007-03-15 16:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your dad to get your family into counseling. You all need it
I have step kids and went through the same thing.
Hope this helps
2007-03-15 16:07:46 · answer #5 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit down with her and talk and ask her if there is some thing in you that she dont'n like.
or you can tell her to see you as a friend,not as stepdaugther.good luck.
2007-03-15 16:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by juan b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to be cool about it. you have to break the ice.that I'm sure it will make your dad a happy man. its up to YOU. go for it.
2007-03-15 16:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just invite her out for lunch and be real with her, stop being over emotional about it...and just grow up. be the better and bigger person...she'll feel so embarrased and with suck up to you in the future....good luck
2007-03-15 16:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you don't have to be friends, but being cordial can't hurt. if she starts leave the room. (that already seems to work for the two of you)
2007-03-15 16:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Break the ice, forgive her, all u can do, pray for her.....you will feel better.....Jesus loves you
2007-03-15 16:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋