In the beginning of our relationship my boyfriend cheated on me and the woman ended up pregnant. I was in denial of all of this, but ever since his daughter was born i feel that all the feelings have hit me and that i have lost who i am. On top of that she is trying to come between him and i. I know this is the man i am going to Marry and i have decided to forgive him. I just want to figue out how to deal with this and get back to my old self. I feel like a mess. I have good and bad days and it is all really difficult. What do i need to do?
2007-03-15 15:58:47 · 7 answers · asked by whyme? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First, take a deep breath. Then allow yourself to take one day at a time. Start doing things you like to do and you will be yourself soon. Even though you may not like your boyfriend's other woman, just remember the daughter is not at fault.
2007-03-15 16:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by srena 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you going to marry a man who had a daughter with another woman? Go read He's just not that into you and realize that you deserve better than your current boyfriend. If you do marry him, you'll never feel completely happy. The other woman will never be out of your lives because he has a daughter with her.
2007-03-15 16:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being cheated on hurts. Not only has your boyfriend shredded your trust, but he has stomped on your heart. And worst of all, an innocent child was born from the mess.
Trust takes time to build, and it's not easy if the mother of his child is ruining things. It's time to sit down with him. If he isn't going to get that mother under control, then you two need to talk about the future of your relationship.
You also need to figure out if you've really forgiven him. I think you both need to see a psychologist together, and you might want sessions alone, too. You sound like you could be depressed.
2007-03-15 16:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to marry this guy? And at the same time you are trying to figure out how to get back to you? Honey, the answer is drop him and the second thing you are needing will come in time. I can't believe that you actually want to marry this guy. I feel sorry for you honey. You are headed for a life of misery and woe.
2007-03-15 16:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by myjamsandwich 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want to marry this guy? I would think twice about that one, as they say once a cheat always a cheat, and you will always have the woman who he cheated with in your life somehow or another b/c they have a child together. But it's your life.
2007-03-15 16:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do, and I know it's hard, and that's to pick up your bags, and you and your daughter go your own way, live the way you want to live, for yourself and for your daughters' sake! Somewhere out there , there is someone special that will treat you and your daughter special, the way you deserve to be treated, because what you are going through is not right, and you shouldn't have to go through that!! You need to be strong!! And really think about what you want for you and for your daughter!!
2007-03-15 17:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by musicman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
so he was having an affair with another woman correct, you might want to go to a therapist of your choice. hope you fell better!!
2007-03-15 16:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋