ok, my bf and i have been dating for about 6-7 mos now and hes already told me he loves me... i love him and hes already started talking about how he wants to spend more and more time with me... maybe marry me somewhere down the road.... so im pretty sure he means it lol... hes been overseas for about 3mos and i really think its bringing us closer together somehow... anyways.. my problem is, im jealous. Of every girl hes ever gone out with, kissed, hugged, told i love you to.... (hes not in contact with any of his exs anymore so...) is this normal to think that way or just kinda wierd that id let something that silly get to me... please help.. im confused beyond all reason here... im 19 and hes the first guy ive ever really actually loved and i just dont want it to fall through. Especially over something this ridiculous...
2007-03-15 15:50:42 · 9 answers · asked by Vachik21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like you both really love each other so let it go its not important, you cant expect that people will come to you without any baggage
2007-03-15 15:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by f_jayce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to "fear" that something so special, something you cherish above everything else, could be vulnerable and may not end "happily ever after." You are young, this is what love is all about, T-R-U-S-T..... Enjoy the relationship for what it is, do not expect and you will never get disappointed, rather you will be surprised over and over again! Until your uncertainty with your feelings are a sure thing, do not dwell on what COULD happen but set your sights and energies in a more positive angle and make some GOOD things happen, go out of your way to do something unexpected for him, relish the fact that he wants to be with you and you with him. Treat each other with respect and never, ever take him for granted!!
May you have a long and fulfilling life together...
2007-03-15 22:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your b/f had a life before you. You need to know he loves you not her. She is just his good friend so be confident. She was a asset in his life. Look at it like a plus for you . She may really understand him so don't be jealous. Her love 4 him is not the same as your love. Take her in and let her be your friend. Become her friend but do not let him come between the two of you. The three of you must be very clear on these issues for this to work. If she doesn't have a good heart do not let her into your life.
2007-03-15 23:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be ridiculous, but it is quite common to be jealous. however, unchecked, jealousy can be very distructive to a relationship. usually born out of insecurity, just try to put it in perspective. everyone brings with them a past into a new relationship.but that is exactly what it is- the past. this relationship represents a new beginning. think in terms of the present, and the future. dont look back. and please- dont let your jealousy include his relationships with close friends and relatives.some people are so jealous, they are even intimidated by their love's close ties with their own family!.hold yourself in higher esteem ,and you will see that you are worthy to have his love. you will soon discover that your jealousy has left you, and you can start to truely enjoy your love. best wishes
2007-03-15 23:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um....you love who?? sounds to me as if you love your self.... when your thinking you should possess all this mans past and future who are you thinking about? Me thinks its not really your man but rather your self. Its time to grow up! What made your man who he is is his experiences, and you want to destroy who he is by taking or erasing his experiences? the only reason he knows how to kiss or make love is because of little sally rotten crotch behind the carnival pavilion. you probably wouldn't be interested in him were he the slobbering tonsil hockey prone shivering lip virgin. ooohhh romantic...yes most guys are just that .....until experience teaches different.
2007-03-15 23:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by Firemedic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are falling in love with him. Don't get too possessive tho. Why worry about who he has dated, or the past. That is gone. It does not exist. He didn't know about you in the past. Forget it. Just love him!
2007-03-15 22:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
lol...seems like we are same kind of person...but if he didnt contact with all the exs anymore i will just open one eyes and close one eyes and love him with my heart..everyone have their pass..if everyone also care of pass many misunderstood may happen..he no more contact with all his exs..so actually you no need to think too much..just love it with your heart and if you really love him..trustworthy is important...just trust him...and everything will be sweet and fine
2007-03-15 22:59:53 · answer #7 · answered by Chreyl S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think being jealous is normal
2007-03-15 22:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by groucheta66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok and chill you have him invite him over to sleep or something.
2007-03-15 22:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by mi hi yo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋