hey people i'm almost 17 years old and i live in california. my boyfriend (19) and i were living together for 4 months in my parents house i got pregnant and my boyfriend had moved out before i knew i was actually pregnant i'm 10 weeks pregnant, now my parents argue that the baby is going to have my last name and my mom says that i'm not going to see him, talk to him or have anything to do with him. She also says that when she gets the baby's medical it will be under her custody! Could the baby be under her custody eventhough in underage? can my boyfriend be with me during labor? can my parents take the baby from me or prohibit me for the baby having my boyfriends last name?? i need help! she wants me to register as a single mother in the prenatal care clinic..... what should i do? cauze he totally wants to be responsible!! HELP!!!
2007-03-15 15:48:46 · 16 answers · asked by Jasmin Q 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It is your child and your parents can not force you to do anything you do not want to do. Contact your local social services center they can help you..
2007-03-15 15:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have got so much on your plate right now and sound very stressed. Take slow steps each day. The first thing to do is get prenatal care so you are taking the very best care of you and your baby. Try to talk to parents logically; they can't take the baby from you and shouldn't want the baby's father to be out of the picture either as long as he's not a drug addict or something along the lines of a major looser. Start planning for you future as a Mom in regards to living arrangements, work and school arrangements, daycare, etc over the next several months. When your parents start seeing you act like an adult then they should start treating you as an adult.
2007-03-15 16:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Christy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All decisions regarding your baby are yours to make including the last name. Your parents can not stop you from seeing or talking to the father, as there is a child involved the courts will even require communication between you and your boyfriend in regards to matters of the baby. No also to your parents having custody of your baby.
2007-03-16 00:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is worried and doing what she thinks is best for you in the long run. HOWEVER, a child deserves both parents. If he is a good guy, doesn't hurt you or use drugs and is stable... If you love him and he loves you... Then you CAN'T block him from your babies life. This is YOUR child, not your mothers. Yes, he can be in the room with you. You just have to be clear to the hospital when you are admitted (usually a few weeks before delivery) that you want to allow him in the room. Don't be angry at your mom, she probably truly believes she is doing what is best for you. However what is best for you may not be what is best for your baby. You give your child the name that you feel in your heart is right. And remember if you do not claim him as the father you will have a hard time with child support. She may need legal guardianship in order to place the baby under her medical insurance. My advice to you is to try to get out on your own. Have the dad get the baby on his medical insurance. Have that be part of your child support requirements that he provides the medical. There are a TON of places, such as Pregnancy Choices, that will help you get on your own. I admire the hell out of you for not having an abortion. I don't know where in CA you live, but I am in the Bay Area and the Pregnancy Choices I am talking about is in Union City. They help young mothers finish school, find affordable housing, and get things to live such as clothes, furniture etc... IM me if you are close by. I'd love to give you more advice. My IM is Robinstarlyn
2007-03-15 16:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by Starlyn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i know in nj where i live once a teen has a baby she is legally an emancipated minor meaning she is an adult for the fact that she has a child she makes decisions for that child even though she maybe under 18. if he wants to sign the birth certificate she cant forbid him from doing that if its his baby. he is the father and he is over 18 he has rights to the baby. she may not want him to but he does. unless she can prove in like a family court that neither of u 2 are responsible for a baby she cant just take your baby it doesnt work that way. grandparents have rights but not the right to snatch your baby. but as long as u live with her u may have to abide by her house rules...like she can prohibit him from coming over to see u guys etc so as far as that u have to figure out what u will do about ur living situation. best of luck get that prenatal care and take ur vitamins!
2007-03-15 15:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by charli_red1218 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yet another remark stated that when you're pregnant you're emancipated. that's no longer fullyyt authentic, it rather is the case with HIPPA regulation ( which ability scientific archives) scientific look when you and your toddler. inspite of the incontrovertible fact which you at the instant are not immediately an grownup in view which you bypass pregnant. you nonetheless won't have the ability to go right into a binding settlement to purchase a motor vehicle or abode. That being stated, i assume it might desire to count number on the coverage of the scientific institution and state regulation. especially cases persons are under criminal accountability to tell the government, or maybe in case your mum and dad do no longer press rates, the state CAN, using fact statutory rape is a criminal.
2016-10-18 12:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by arleta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your parents cant stop you from any of those things the onlt persons premission you need to give your baby there fathers last name is there father they cant keep you apart and just because your Mom chooses to get insurance for the baby does in NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM GIVE HER CUSTODY. If she wanted that she will have to file a legal petion and have a good reason registerign at your clinic as a single mom doesnt mean anything your childs father can be present at delivery and you can kick your parents out if you want its up to you no matter what your age
2007-03-15 15:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by stacie_collins2001 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your parents have no rights to this baby at all. it is your baby. they cannot "take" custody or make you give it your last name. about the only thing they can control is if you can see him in their home or not. you might want to check out the laws in your state also because i know that in some, once a child has a child, the parents are no longer legally responsible for them. so basically if they wanted to kick you out and not help you with anything, they could.
2007-03-15 15:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gee, you really thought this out like an adult when you were crawling into the bed together. now you are having fun with the consequences!!!
and shame on your parents as well for letting him live under their roof and having sex with their daughter!!!
out of the four of you, not one of you took the time, not one second, to THINK that one single problem could arise out of this "living together situation".
you will not even be 18 by the time your baby is born. how do you intend to support this baby??? did you think of that? does baby daddy work? guess he had better get a job, hire a lawyer, and go to court to be named father and accept his responsibility's.
poor poor baby......
everyone involved in this should be ashamed for the life this poor baby is going to live. talk about underprivileged. he will probably be underprivileged all of his life thanks to teenagers that didn't think and parents that didn't care... and now, all of a sudden your mother is so indignant! what a joke!!! if she was such a good parent you wouldn't be in the state that you're in now!!!
tomorrow call a lawyer and find out what you should do and what your rights and the baby's fathers rights are.
you may be able to emancipate yourself if your boyfriend is willing to step up to the plate, but don't hold your breath.
talk to the lawyer. then decide on what to do.
this is what happens when you "play" at being a grown up! now the playing is over and hard reality has set in!
2007-03-15 17:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK first, i wish you the best of luck with your baby. Second, this is YOUR baby, not your mom's. Every decision that needs to be made, has to be made by you. You need to start thinking and acting like an adult, and the first thing that you should do is tell your mom that she does not have the final say. If you want to raise the baby with your boyfriend, then that is what you should do. Remember, everything is up to you! Good luck!! : )
2007-03-16 07:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Royal_Honey_Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents can't take your rights away. You can name your baby whatever you want to name it, they can't squat about it.
However, until you turn 18, they can restrict your boyfriends access to you, they can tell him that he can't be with you during labor. I would suggest that you tell him to get on their good side so that they can get along. Your mother can't take custody of your child unless she can prove that you are not able to care for it. The baby is YOURS and YOU are responsible for it.
You need someone who knows the law to talk to your parents, a lawyer or the cops. You have rights and your parents can't take them away from you.
2007-03-15 21:53:23 · answer #11 · answered by ERIC W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋