If you're married and go to a dominatrix for a spanking, is that cheating?
2007-03-15 15:34:08 · 32 answers · asked by Anne 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES!!!
As bizarre as it seems to most people, your intimacy level with your spouse should be deep enough that you should not have to go outside the mariage for ANY sexual pleasures.
I strongly believe that love sometimes means "if you scratch my itch, I'll scratch yours".
That is a pretty mild kink.....and the trust level in a marriage would be pretty sad if you can't even bring the subject into discussion!
2007-03-15 15:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Is it done behind your back or did you already know about this fetish. If you allow this to happen then what else is acceptable. Why don't you become the dominatrix and your spouse can just go to you and then there won't be any question of cheating.
2007-03-15 15:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it is cheating if it was at all sexually satisfying.
I would also say that if you need a spanking that bad, why not have your wife do it?
In every relationship, both partners have needs. There's no reason why a wife should not do (within reason) something for her husband that she knows he wants/needs. There's also no reason why a husband should not do the same for a wife.
Sit down and talk about it. Both of you be really honest about your needs/wants and come up with a way for you both to be happy.
2007-03-15 15:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this depends on what you personally classify as cheating. Some would say no because there is no sex or kissing, others would say yes because you are seeking the company of another other than your spouse.
I think you need to look inside yourself and see what you classify as cheating to you and then talk it over with your spouse and see if you can work something out to save your marriage if you feel that it's in jeopardy.
Good luck.
2007-03-15 15:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by jessicadiamond_4einc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-03-15 15:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOl @ is this what you want to be doing when Jesus comes back..man, that cracked me up and made my evening. I really need to get a life lol (Imagine the look on your face if that really happened?..oh CRAP..its the second coming and I'm bent over his knee!)
Anyhoo, that aside, isn't this the reason people get married? For FREE spankings?? I'm such a penny pincher that way..
Why pay for it when we have a perfectly good paddle at home..
2007-03-15 15:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THAT U KNOW the answer to your own question? if you are looking for someone to "make" it "okay" > its obviously some type of secret right? then i guess it is cheating.... maybe not with a person; human being. but if you are lying and sneaking behind your partners back then yeah you are cheating...
2007-03-15 15:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jdez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, there is no penetration, therefore it isn't sex. However, it is a sexual act. Any sexual act can be considered cheating if one partner is either kept unaware or makes it known that they don't agree to the act.
I'm going to assume you didn't agree (or your partner doesn't) since you are asking the question. And if this is the case, yes, it's cheating.
2007-03-15 15:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Marina D 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's my criteria for cheating: If you wouldn't do it with them right there, it's cheating. If you were standing behind your spouse or vice versa, would you/they agree with what you/they were doing? In this case, it would probably be considered cheating unless you were a very "adventurous" couple.
2007-03-15 16:03:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would it hurt the person that they are married to..? If you said yes then it is cheating..
2007-03-15 15:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by Dana D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋