I really need someone advice?

Question

i really need someones advice, im 24 years old and i feel that my life is going nowhere, i have been working in the same place for the past 6 years, and i have never been in a relationship, not even a date, i just feel there is something terribly wrong me. i feel like everyone else is happier and better, and i cannot understand myself, what im doing wrong.

I do have esteem, as well as self approval, whenever i get a chance i do clubbing, and my main intention is too have a good, i work nights and pretty lost contact with friends, im not shy at all and i am well educated, i have also done a lot of reading on self healing and so on and it has helped a lot, im expressing these feelings because i know that people in general do understand what im saying.

im very picky with girls, but somewhere inside compared the people i know, i truly want to be happy. I hope his helps

Answer 1

What I believe you have is basically a rough time. It's a straight out of college thing. Once a person gets out of college they mostly feel out of place in a world because of their seclussion for the previous years and all of a sudden they pop into the world and must now continue to act and behave as adults.

My advice to you: take a vacation, it is important to relax and just live life. Sometimes its good to return to old friends, to family, etc.
Find an exciting hobby. Many people above 18 believe that hobbies are for little kids who need something to do. That is not true as adults must have fun too. Do something fun and life will not be as dull.
If it is your job you hate, simple, find a new job. Find something you can make money in and like doing. If nothing like that is available, well then just try your best to find something close.
As for dating, simple techniques such as nightclubs, bars, beaches, etc. can work for you, but since I don't know where you live I can't tell you anything more than that.

Good luck.

Answer 2

First, there is nothing wrong with working in the same place or profession for several years. I've been in the same career for 20 years, and I still love it. However, if it's a dead-end job you've been in for 6 years, and if it's something you started at 18, it probably is...then you may be due for a change.
Take some night classes at your local community college. You may even be able to go for free...and you'll meet lots of new friends.
Join a local club or two. Every town has a Rotary Club, for example, and you'll meet all kinds of people and also do some service for your community.
Or maybe a sports league. If you have a YMCA, there's all kinds of leagues.
It all boils down to this. To meet people and potential dates you have to get out there. And you have to make your life happy. If you are not happy with yourself, there is no way another person will make you happy.
But if you have a career that fulfills you, hobbies and interests you enjoy and public service you can perform, you will find yourself getting happier..and more attractive to others!

Answer 3

You gotta ask before you can have a date - you sound very shy and unsure of yourself. Join a karate class, go to the local art center and learn how to paint or take a course in writing. Get a new job! Unless you really really like what you are doing. Get some new clothes. Be friendly! Go take some courses at the local community college - all kinds of people there and pretty girls abound. Volunteer at the local hospital once a week, teach someone to read, play ball with the kids in the street. You need to change your way of thinking about yourself. Do things for other people and you won't think so much about how bad your life is. Go to church - join the singles group there. Good luck!

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with you! Only your self image. Look at the positive things you have. In Michigan you're lucky to have a job let alone being faithful 6 yrs at one. Not being in a relationship can be changed- there is someone for you. Just be patient. Don't get depressed or think ill of yourself. Work on improving your attitude. Find a Bible and read Matthew chapters 5,6, & 7. Also Proverbs 1-30. (Whatever day of the month it is read that Chapter. Build a relationship with Jesus- He'll tell you who you really are, give you wisdom, and empower you to build yourself and others along the way.

Answer 5

you are so not doing any thing wrong .....working in the same place for the last 6 years is a good thing not a bad thing...job stability is what it is called...go buy a new car that 6 years will play a big part...and no women/man thats ok they will find u..go buy that car go out with friends have a drink or some more than one meet some girls get out a bit it will do u some good...you dont always need some one to be happy...i was alone 4 a long time and then the min i stoped looking some one found me ...we were married last november im preggo's with our first child togeather he has 2 from his ex-wife n i have 3 from my ex-husband so the min i di not look is the min he found me n he was right around the block the whole time ..we had knowen one an other for 12 years....12 years and then look now so in all if it can happen to me it can happen to you trust me i know..... :-)

sonja k

Answer 6

After 6 yrs., you should be able to talk with your co-workers. You should have been able to figure out at least some idea of what is needed to advance your personal life. Otherwise you have given no details about yourself and you know very well what I may be referring to. At your age, looks and personna mean everything. One's self-confidence shows. If there's non, you're not wanted. That's the way of the world at your age. Maybe you should think about trying to find a 'group' that fits your personna. At least you will have something in common. I'm only guessing here. Good luck.

Answer 7

working in the same place shows commitment, it's a good thing. You need to find something else to do with your time- join an amateur sports league, volunteer with Big Brother or other charities, investigate different faiths or your faith more deeply, spend less time on the computer, take a walk around your neighborhood and meet your neighbors. Improve your outlook on life and suddenly you'll find yourself with a more complete life. And you don't need a bf/gf to make your life complete- I'm 15 for 16 years without one, and I'm just fine.

Answer 8

Break the cycle you're in - save up money, buy a ticket and jet off overseas. You're sure to meet lots of interesting people and really test your limits. It will also give you more confidence when relating to others and you'll be far more assertive upon your return

Answer 9

Keep trying. Take chances. If your sick of your job, move and try to pursue something else. It will look very bleak at times, but just keep working and you will pull through. As for relationships, go around and keep trying. Make efforts that you haven't yet made. Don't give up, just start making changes, today!

Answer 10

nobody deserves to feel that way. Is there anything that you've always wanted to do? take a risk. Get out there, there is a perfect girl right under your nose, probably someone that you look at but never really see.