Imitation is NOT the sincerest form of flattery. I was friends with this girl for a few years, but in the past few months, she's become very clingy, and I don't want to be friends with her anymore. I've tried most of the "solutions" for clingy people, such as getting her to talk to my other friends, but none of them like her. Plus she doesn't seem interested in making new friends anyway--she wants only me. If somebody says hi to her, she'll reply in a nervous little-girl voice, "I don't talk to people I don't know," but she's NOT shy--just kind of weird. If I even mention another person in a conversation, she feels threatened that I will become friends with that person and forget all about her. I try to ignore her a lot of the time, but that doesn't work. I want to just tell her to stay away from me, but I've decided that is not such a good idea since she is in 4 of my classes (sits by me and stares at me in all of them too), so I have to put up with her nearly everyday. What do I say?
2007-03-15 15:08:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well, have you ever considered that she might be a lesbian or some kind of interest in you? there honestly is no polite way to get rid of someone. it's either you tell them the truth or not. the straight out truth hurts too much so i just say sugar coat it a bit. but if you do so, you might not get your point across. if worse comes, you're just going to have to ignore her and then eventually she will get the picture.
2007-03-15 15:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by KikkomanLady 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know - it's hard to push away someone when he/she thinks a world of you. Just tell her that you want to be with other people too not just her. Tell her that your friends need you as much as she does. Maybe hang out with her once or twice a week and then gradually go down to twice a month? Give her something to read to come out of her shell. She may lack that first step -- what did she say or what did you do that enable her to be open to you? You could point that out - that she can have many friends, and it's much more fun that way when you have different people to hang out with.
Good luck sweetie!
2007-03-15 15:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through the same thing quite a few times. If you can, try to ignore her as often as possible (talk to her, but only when necessary) and avoid spending time with her whenever you can. In my experiences (I know this sounds awful, but I'm trying to help you...), sometimes it's best to find something to get mad at her about, so that she doesn't feel quite so rejected, and overreact. Refuse to speak to her for whatever she did. Odds are, there are a few things you could find, considering the fact that you don't enjoy spending time with her. Hope this helps!
2007-03-15 15:13:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her straight up, either give me space, or look for a friend who likes to have another be clingy. Just get the point across to her sometimes you must hurt someones feelings, but if she is a true friend she'll always be a friend, I would tell her how you feel and make her backoff, then try to get your life back to normal.
2007-03-15 15:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by kanei 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no polite way of getting rid of people like that just tell her how you feel and if she doesn't listen try being rude to her you may not want to be but most annoying clingy friends just need to be told straight
good luck i hope it works
2007-03-15 15:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl has some self esteem issues going on and you're really not being a very good person. It is so utterly obvious that she is insecure (do not equate insecurity with shyness they are two seperate things) You must have entered her life at an extremely pivotal time for her and she clings to you because you were there when she needed someone to hold on to. She doesn't know how to make friends on her own because she has been so afraid of loosing you in the process. I suggest rather than being a mean BI TCH to her talk with your school counselor let them know this girl has some really deep issues and quite possibly need therapy to get through them. I wonder how you would like to feel your entire world crashing down on you and to have only one person you think you can rely on, one person who can help you stay afloat....But that sort of thing doesn't matter to you does it...not in the shallow end of the pool
2007-03-15 15:43:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
I've learned over the years that there is no "polite" way to do it. That's why they're clingy. You may just have to hit them over the head (not literally) with the truth. Just tell them the facts and deal with the consequences.
2007-03-15 15:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you have a rare contagious disease.
JK, just have a heart to heart talk with them and tell them that they are smothering you. Be up front you may hurt that person, but honesty is the best policy.
2007-03-15 15:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by schneid123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. Tell her that you value her friendship, but that you need space in order to develop other friendships. that you suggest that she do the same in order that she too can bring about a more interesting life.
always tell the Truth in a diplomatic manner.
2007-03-15 15:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you could be busy in a few weeks time and don't think you have much time to spend with her. Tell her that and see how she re-acts. Good luck.
2007-03-15 15:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋