is having a hard time.He has been lashing back at mom and dad because they want to go on with their lives ,meaning running around ,and he feels pushed aside.I dont believe they are bad parents but rather they are getting back at any way they can.I dont think they realize what they are doing to him beecause if they truley knew,then they wouldnt do it.\
I am living with my daughter because she cant pay the bills and cant afford daycare.I am out of state mother so this state isnt my home.How can I leave my daughter and her kids[1 is 3 the other 3\}shes my only child,i rasied her alone and we are the only family that we have.This is killing me and I want to do the right thing,and because I feel like its my moral obligation,I feel paralized,not knowing what end is up
2007-03-15 15:05:03 · 6 answers · asked by dlbonhomme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not your job to raise her kids. Sit her down and let her know she has to get her act in order because you are leaving. Give her a date and stick to it. Help with a budget, sitter, whatever else is needed. You have to push her out into the world and I don't think the party one is the one she should be exploring right now. The children are the ones who suffer as you well know. Someone needs to get her to understand that and as her mother, it may as well be you. Good luck and don't blame yourself if she doesn't listen. That just means she has to learn her lesson in her own way.
2007-03-15 15:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whilst i became into 11, I listened to music that my fifteen-twelve months-previous sister cherished. i think of that specific, Eminem isn't a solid artist for babies to be listening to, yet on the comparable time, the only music noticeably lots presently that would not have irrelevant lyrics (no count if sexual innuendos or purely swearing) is quite like the Disney teeny-bopper stuff. in the experience that your daughter likes Eminem, purely bypass with it. probability is she'll outgrow it besides. :-) wish that helps!
2016-12-18 14:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by bornhoft 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh mama, i hear you loud and clear....
been in that spot myself. i know how you feel!!!
sit down and talk to her. don't make her feel that you want to abandon her. BUT, let her know you are not happy living out of your home state and want to go home. tell her you will give her enough time to get on her feet and save up a few dollars and then you want to go home.
tell her that if she is not making enough money to be independent she should go back to school and get trained for a better paying job. (if she has time to run around she has time to go to school)
be firm, give her a year maybe two, better than a life time of being the built in babysitter and the financial department for her to fall back on every month!!!
trust me she will not like the idea one little bit. but stand firm and tell her two years is your absolute limit!!!
YOU call the local schools and see what her options are and then give them to her. she will get the hint and you will all be better off!!!
good luck!!! it was hard for me and it will be hard for you, but the outcome will make all of you happier people in the end!!!
2007-03-15 15:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you can go to your church and talk with your pastor for advice. Your daughter is an adult and will need to find her own answer's this is something you must let her do. I know it's hard and easier said than done. Take care of yourself and your life or you will have nothing to give to her. Your in my prayers.
2007-03-15 15:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should raise them as if you were they're mother. and whatever you do don't speak harshly about you're soninlaw in front of them.
2007-03-15 15:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
go home; she needs to get herself together
2007-03-15 15:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋