they dot married in June my sister was born in january 13 days after me.
2007-03-15 14:33:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he doesn't/didn't need your permission, he has nothing to be forgiven for.....
2007-03-15 14:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you would be angry with him, it implies a lack of trust or respect on his part not to tell you. It is up to you to forgive him, whether he talks to you or not. On the other hand: you need to talk with him about why he didn't tell you, maybe he was embarassed that the child would be born so soon after getting married? Maybe he didn't want you to feel like he was replacing you and didn't know how to tell you? You obviously want to give him another chance, the best way to do that is to sit down and hear his side of the story. You are still a member of his family and deserve a straight explaination from him. Good luck.
2007-03-15 21:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by meraphetamine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
holding a grudge really only hurts the person that carries it. I would let your father know that you were very hurt by him not telling you about it. I would also if you have the right relationship ask him why he didn't tell you before. but to hold the bitterness is only going to truly hurt you more than him. It also will interfere with any relation ship you may have with your step-sister whether you realize it or not.
Sometimes forgiving is a hard thing to do and it may take time and it doesn't mean you have to forget. I hope it all goes well for you. remember grudges hurt only the one that bears them.
hugs.
mom of 4 and a child of divorce with a dad that married 3 times.
2007-03-15 21:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by no 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would not talk or face him for a long time and the maybe after I would forgive him after all he is your father so you got to forgive him sometime but that's my opinion you can forgive him when you are ready good luck
2007-03-15 21:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by New Yorker Girl 516 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was probably trying to find the right way to tell you,
i just have a couple of question though...
1. did the lady live with yall or did she have her own place
2. do you live separately from your dad therefore do not see him everyday
3. if you live with your dad did you not notice the pregnant lady walking around the house?
its always better to forgive...
2007-03-15 21:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by march2283 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to, yes.
He may be confused, and may not be the best father. But he's the only one you've got.
My Dad was not the best "protector" or role model - I had to do a lot on my own - but we were friends, in a way. I was often mad at him, but I am glad I was able to relate to him sometimes.
Good luck.
2007-03-15 21:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgiveness is a choice you have to make for yourself. No one can tell you to do it, or when you should. Look into your heart and you'll find the answer of whether you want to or not.
2007-03-15 21:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can understand you're hurt, but he's the only father you get. Tell him how you feel and forgive him.
2007-03-15 21:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, you should forgive him!! Everyone goes through things that another person may not like. Imagine how you would feel if your father died tomorrow.
2007-03-15 21:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, hes your father and he was just probablly nervious that you would go through deppresion. Dont worry he was just worried about you, thats whats fathers are here for right? I hope for the best!
2007-03-15 21:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by Amber K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
forgive him for what?
for living his life? sorry to disapoint you, but he has a life and a right to live it without a need for your aproval
2007-03-15 22:01:29 · answer #11 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋