i,m married my husband works out of town . he wants to relocate, but i've never been to this place and feel kinda weiry about leaving. i'currently working he wants me to take a leave to visit. the only problem is my MOTHER -IN -LAW whom he is living with. HELP!!!!!!
2007-03-15 14:18:31 · 6 answers · asked by sassy t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have never been there how do you know its not a nice place to be? Do you love your husband? If so, he should be more important than any job, anywhere. I would quit my job for my wife in a heart beat and I am sure she would do the same for me. Go visit and see what the new place has to offer. If you like it move there only if you have your own place. You mother in-law need not run your life. Set boundries, do not be afraid to speak up. If your husband loves you he will understand that a married couple need their own space.Visit and stay in a hotel/motel. If your husband is not worth more than your job you have a lousy marriage. If he works one place and you another for very long you have no marrige at all. It speaks well of him and his regard for you that he wants you with him. Jobs are everywhere for those willing to work but a life partner that really loves you can be hard to find..
2007-03-15 14:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by cold_fearrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least give him the benefit of the doubt and try the new place before giving him your decision. Hopefully you will only have to stay with the mother-in-law for a short time. Good luck.
2007-03-15 21:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you get on with the mother in law do not go! My dad lived with my mum's mum and they just did not get on. My ex wife's mother was like the wicked witch of the east, there was only her opinion that counted. Unless your mother in law is like your own mother then don't go.
2007-03-15 21:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off forget your monther-in-law!!!!! She can't run your marriage, or otherwise you don't really have one. If you love your husband and it sounds like he does you then hey go for it you have him and trust me he wants to be there so let him be there for you don't push him away.
2007-03-15 21:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by lost 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG....I would never move in with the mother in law.
U r asking for trouble in paradise.
I wouldnt do it.
Figure out another compromise.
Good luck
2007-03-15 21:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone's always going to get the bad, worst part of the deal. Someone's always going to end up the loser.
2007-03-15 21:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by JUDY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋