OMIGOD some of the women that are asking for answers are stupid. If he is cheating on you and still staying he is just trying to keep something stable while he has his fun.
WAKE UP WOMEN!!!!! There are good guys out there who are not physically/verbally/mentally abusive and would never cheat or break their marriage vows.
Believe it or not there are still some men who believe in the sanctity of marriage and the meaning of a relationship. I was married for 9 years and had a lot of opportunity to cheat but I was married and just blew them off. Good men aren't as hard to find, just give up looking for the bad boys and you will see the good guys sticking out in the crowd.
2007-03-15 14:26:36
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answer #1
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answered by Anonymous
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That is exactly what just happened here except hes says he want to get a divorce and yet he still hasn't filed any papers yet or took the intiative to do anything for it. However your probably right follow him around check his stuff find a way to catch him up and then when you do confront him about it not in a hostile way but in way of just asking hey way couldn't you seriously just be honest and tell me it was over? It suck totally and if you dont then you will lose your mind thinking about this stuff. If you have to then hey go and hire someone to follow him. Another thing if hes still there then he definately need some counseling and still loves you but he has one messed up way of showing and is really using you all at the same time. So go catch him and if you really want him around and he wants you get a marriage counselor and get him some more help cus he has a serious issue and is acting very abusive to you.
2007-03-15 14:42:42
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answered by Anonymous
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Divorce is work. A lot of men avoid divorce because of all of the legal issues and if you didn't get a prenup then that's a whole other issue that needs to be worked out. I think a lot of men stay in an unhealthy relationship to avoid having to deal with the legal and mental ramifications. I have a friend who went through that. I know you probably don't want to hear this, but I think you should go and find someone who respects you. Best of luck.
2007-03-15 14:29:53
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answered by Candice B 3
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He is probably thinking about his pocket book. Divorce is not cheap either financially or emotionally. A lot of men look at cheating as a cheap way out, that carries very little risk from their prospective.
Bottom line: You are taking a major risk if you sleep with him you are sleeping with another man or woman and their partners. You aren't just with him any more. He is exposing you to risk sexually, emotionally and possibly physically that could cost you your life.
2007-03-15 14:17:27
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answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6
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There are a lot of details missing here, but if he's cheating, why do you stay with him? Why don't you divorce him if he's cheating? Don't let the door hit him in the a** on the way out.
Gather up what's left of your self respect and let him know that you are not going to tolerate his infidelities any longer.
2007-03-15 14:19:32
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answered by QT 5
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Surely you can figure out this one: The first lady he cheats with on you is simply the bridge out of the marriage....... you never change horses in the middle of the stream until you are sure there is another horse there.... With you staying, you are the jerk in reserve, and he will use you as such until you get sick of it, or accept it, and hon, if you are any lady at all with any self esteem at all, being the door mat get pretty old. Sorry for you hon. You didn't ask what to do, so I won't say...........
2007-03-15 14:46:22
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answered by April 6
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Just in case the affair thing doesn't work out, he have you to fall back on. If he has not spoken to you since then, you shouldn't make it so easy for him to reach you when he want to. Why let him not make a decision about what he wants. Even if he does, I wouldn't want him ever again, even if I have to cry my eyeballs out to get over him. You will never trust him.
2007-03-15 14:31:16
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answered by Go GO Ressa 5
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Probably because hes thinking the same about you. Have you even tired to talk to him?? Tell him how you feel??? Dont just jump to the conclusion that hes cheating on you. Even if he is you need to just talkt o him. And if he is seeing someone else you divorce his ***!!!
2007-03-15 14:15:11
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answered by Rachel L 3
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Why divorce u when he can leave and have her and then come back and have u?
Wake up hun....get rid of him. Dont wait on him to do it cause he never will. Would u if you could have your cake and eat it too?
Good luck
2007-03-15 14:16:08
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answered by Truth Teller 5
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Because no matter what else he is doing he actually loves you. prove to him that you know what he is up to and he will either leave or quit screwing up his life. if he chooses to stay and clean up his sorry act. dont hold the grudge too long.
2007-03-15 14:25:57
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answered by billy_bong_horton 3
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