All of my friends who are married and/or have children seem to be miserable. They all tell me to stay single and don't have any children. I think their comments are based on their personal experiences only. They make comments in reference to my lifestyle, as far as shopping, eating out, traveling and having me time...as if they are mad. Are there any married people on here that think that the single life is definitely better?
2007-03-15 14:00:59 · 26 answers · asked by Fireanddesir 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Single women want to be married and have kids.
Married women miss their freedom and wish they were single again.
There are pros/cons to every lifestyle. If push came to shove, most of these women wouldn't actually change anything.
2007-03-15 14:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by CuJo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. I'm happily married and the mother of two. I actually feel sorry for some single people who seem desperate just to get married.
Some people don't want to settle down or have children. That's fine if that's what they want. I just don't think that people should marry just so they say they are married.
On the other hand there are some married people who shouldn't be married either, but that's another story.
Frankly, I think you should do what makes you happy and not what your friend's think you should do. If you choose to get married and have children, go ahead.
I would be empty without my husband and children. They are the light of my life. I wouldn't want to be single again, dating seems complicated now,lol.
2007-03-15 21:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not jealous of single women, and I'm married, but I can definitely understand mothers who are jealous of people who don't have children!!! I would be. But then again, I NEVER want kids, so I won't be one of them!
Still, why is it that single women keep looking for Mr.Right and often act miserable and obsessed about it (hence all the books, Oprah shows, etc. on the subject!), and married women act miserable too???
It's all a matter of perspective and of fitting your personality!!
I know I would be COMPLETELY miserable if I had my own kids, so I love it when I can enjoy and play with other people's, then hand them back! NOT the stereotype for a woman, but it's how I am.
Maybe the women you talk about chose a path that wasn't for them. Scary to think how many people do it every day.
2007-03-15 21:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mary P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't say that the single life is any better, but you only live once, so enjoy the single life while you can. I think a lot of married women and girls today, regret giving up their freedom too soon. So do all the things that you would like to do and go to all the places that you would like to see so that when you settle down you will have no regrets doing so..
2007-03-15 21:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go back. Of course there are attractive qualities to the single life! I do remember!! However, your friends need to evaluate the really important things in life, they are sometimes a challenge. I'm glad to have married my best friend and have great kids, even when it's not easy. The shopping and partying is too superficial of a reason for me to wish I was single again. Just my opinion, after all, everyone has their own reality.
2007-03-15 21:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by momof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage and parenthood is infinitely harder than being single. True, it's easy to miss the days when you didn't have 3 or 4 people depending on you for everything... but with a good spouse, one who actively participate in raising the kids, then I for one would choose the family life over the single life any day!
2007-03-15 21:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by dannykel1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh no, I don't think so, I remember when I was single all I do is work on a week day, travel during vacation time,date, its a bit boring and it gets old. I will not change anything to be a mother. Knowing that I have this 3 beautiful kids and watch them grow up just like planting a rose bush, you watch them grow till its time to have Flowers during summer. That's how nice it is to be a mother. Even I will divorce my husband soon, but I will not change anything being a mother...
2007-03-15 21:37:50 · answer #7 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! I feel so much safer and secure now that I'm married. I would never want to be out there again. My husband and I can play safe, and not ever worry about contracting some disease. I was as shallow as Paris when I was single, now I live for 4 children who give me huggs and kisses all day! As far as I'm concerned life didnt exist until they came in it.
2007-03-15 21:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 27 and I have been with my husband since I was
15 so I have not been single in my adult life. I agree with
you your friends comments must be based on their personal
experiences because I would not change being a wife and mother for the single life.
2007-03-15 21:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by georgia_peach 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think those women got married and had children before they were really ready.
There are times when you wish you had a bit of freedom but when your life is where you want it to be you feel sorry for your single friends.
2007-03-15 21:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your Married friends probably got married, got preganut before they were truly married or they did it for the wrong reasons. I'm a newley wedd. but I think my opinion might count even if just a little...I am very happy with married life... single life was great.. but nothing like being married when your married you ALWAYS have someone to lean. single life you hope that this weeks, month or even this years guy sticks around...
don't let your friends get you down on married life, when your ready it will be great..
2007-03-15 21:39:55 · answer #11 · answered by march2283 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋