about marriage?

Question

my boyfriend asked me to marry him yesterday. Im only 19 but ive been with him for 2 years. What should i do. I love him alot

Answer 1

Quit worrying about "love."

Love is nice, but it's not enough.

Instead, think about what you want out of life, and where you want to be 2, 5, 10 and 25 years down the road. Does he have a plan to get you there? Does he have the ability?

If something happens to him, or he leaves you, will you be able to care for yourself, and for any children he leaves you with?

Think about HIM. What values do you have in common? What values do you have differences with? When you disagree about important decisions, whose values will win? Are both of you okay with that? Whose values are you going to raise your children with?

If you can provide satisfactory answers to questions like these, you'll know how you should respond to his proposal.

Answer 2

You are very young so you may want to hold off a little while before jumping into marriage. BUT if your relationship needs to move to the next level since you've been together a while...then really look at your relationship and think about your future together. What do you like about your fiancee ? Are they sincere and do they really like you, also ? Are you sincere about your feelings for this person ? Do you know what sincerity is ? Are you mature for your age ? Are you two on the same page emotionally, maturely, socially, intelligently ? Is he a good person ? How do you know ? What does he do to show you that he's a good person with credibility and honesty ? Can you two talk about most anything without arguing and fighting ? Do you have mutual respect for each other ? How do you know ? If you have all these things...and you love each other, go for it. Life is short...but you ARE young and chances are you'll live a long time, so no hurry. Rushing relationships...especially marriage can make things seem not so REAL later on down the road. So think about your relationship really hard before deciding to get married at such a young age.

Answer 3

Say yes, but don't set the date for any time soon! True love will wait. Get your lives established before tying the knot. Get an education, a good job, a place to live... then you can think about committing to marriage and children.

Answer 4

Two years isn't long enough for someone to determine if they want to be with that person for eternity. I'd say date atleast another year if not more. You're too young! You're fresh out of high school (one year?) and a lot of people really find out a lot about themselves in their 20's. I would definitely wait. If he is understanding, then that is something you want in a future husband. How old is your bf? Older?

Answer 5

Honey if you have to come on here and ask strangers then I think that answers your question. You aren't ready. You don't have to say yes or put a time frame on it. Maybe he can ask you again in two more years when you both are a little more mature and have had more time together.

Answer 6

You must not be too sure if you are asking the world about it. If your not sure then just have a long engagement of say 2 years or until it feels right.

Answer 7

you do not need to rush into marriage, I have know people who have been engaged a long time, plus you are young.. you have all the time in the world to get married.

Answer 8

marry him only you know what u wanna do and so what ur 19 ur over 18 u can get married.. maby make the date for the end of the year..

Answer 9

go for onother 2-3 years.it doesnt matter how old you are or how long you have been with the person because even when you are married you are still getting to know the person.

Answer 10

If you have to ask a bunch of strangers about this, I don't think you are ready for marriage yet, either that or you don't love him enough.