Well im not sure where this should go but im going to put it here..if it's the wrong place then sorry.
Ok so im 17 & pregnant & due on May 15th & ill be 18 on june 12th so I don't think it's all that bad. I was wondering if any other teen moms ever went or are going through this. On monday my dad came to me & my boyfriend & said hes eligible to make us get married. He doesn't want to pay the doctor bills & he made a big deal out of me going to the hospital when I fell on Sunday. Has any other teen mom gone through this? Of having your father not want responsibilty of you anymore & made you get married so he didn't get stuck paying doctor bills?? And I also wanted to know if he can make us get married, we live in the state of PA, does anyone else know whether or not he can?? I'd like to talk to anyone who went through this or is going through this. Sorry if it's confusing..if you need more info let me know, Thanks!
2007-03-15 13:09:28 · 14 answers · asked by Ashlee 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Im not expecting him to pay my doctor bills. My boyfriend has & another reason he wants us to do is because they can't get insurance for me because the income is too high. Im not expecting him to pay anything. Im ready to pay, im just disgusted of how he says he can make us get married & wanted to know if anyone else is going through this or have gone through it.
2007-03-15 13:16:50 · update #1
He can't force you to get married, but your father is right that he shouldn't have to be responsible for you now. You were old enough to make a baby, be old enough to support that baby. Time to grow up.
2007-03-15 13:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that your father is not being there for you. I hope that in time he will come around.
He can not make you get married, he is able to sign for you to be able to, but he can not make you, no one can. Do not get married just because you are pregnant, you may regret it later, having it done it for the wrong reasons. If you want to get married, wait and make absolute sure that that is what you want to do.
I had my first daughter at 16, but I was lucky, I didn't have to go through, this, after the initial shock, my parents were supportive of me. Please seek out support elsewhere, if you are still in school, a teacher or guidance councilor, a pastor, a friends parent. I hope that your boyfriends parents are more supportive. Good luck, I will say a prayer for you.
2007-03-15 13:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are a minor with no job. You can go to your local health department and get medicaid that should cover all the Dr's bills. I do not know the law but I just cannot believe he can make you get married!! if you do not want to get married then do not do it!! You can also get help with low income housing if you dad does not want you to live with him. He will be the one missing out on a grandchild. Keep your head up and be strong. You can do it
2007-03-15 13:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by jon jon's girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is the entire world can make you get married, that's nonsense and i can't believe he said that. you should have tried to gewt medicade maybe you still can you're almost 8 months so it may be too late. It's not really your dad's responsibilty to pay your birthing bill. he won't have the responsibilty ina few months and now you're an adult so you have to try to make thing work on your own. goodluck and i hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well.
2007-03-15 13:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He can not make you get married. He can however remove you from his insurance at the age of 18 if you are not in some form of secondary education (college). You need to act now. You need to find out what options you have for your baby's health care (doctors visits, prescriptions). Try asking a public assistance representative what options are available for health care for your baby.
BTW---Congrats on your baby!
2007-03-15 13:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by Noire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cannot force you to get married. If I were your dad I'd sure make you and your boyfriend pay the doctor bills. If you are going to be a grown up and a parent you need to take responsibility for yourself and your child.
2007-03-15 13:16:36 · answer #6 · answered by DuneFL 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need to call your child protection or human resource department and get some advice. There are programs for helping you.
Marriage just because you are pregnant and dad does not want to take care of you is not a good idea. Be smart. Find out your options.
2007-03-15 13:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by Mee-Maw 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no he can't make you get married he just wants you to think he can. If I were you I would go through the state programs get housing and medical help and tell him to kiss off. You are going to be a mother and don't need people causing more drama in your life.
2007-03-15 13:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by mommiie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no one can force anyone to get married (at least not legally). If he tries to make you tell them when he takes you to the County Court House that this marriage is NOT what you want. They will not issue a license for the marriage.
2007-03-15 13:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by autumnofserenity@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to do but you should try to get some kind of government aid...Its one of those things you have to put your pride aside for the health of you and your baby...I have been there b4 and I must say that I think God for Government Aid...You don't have to get married unless you want to... baby girl you got to get a back bone and tell you daddy what you think..I know it maybe hard to do that but you have to take a stand for yourself...Congratulations on the birth of your child...what are you having?
2007-03-15 13:22:55 · answer #10 · answered by ~*~*Kimberly~*~* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋