Once again, I tried to ask a woman out in the pizza shop that I frequented. We got to know each other somewhat & I went ahead to ask her out, and this time it's the same thing as always - she has a boyfriend!!! uhhhhh....
But I thought I had this one in the bag. She used to show those signs of attraction, she used to smile in a flirty way every time I looked at her - and this time I thought I had her, but sigh!!
Why do girls do this all the time? Is that the way the dating game works in America? You keep trying and trying and trying and keep failing to get a date that brings you to the verge of frustration and giving up the whole game?
sobs...
2007-03-15 13:05:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
why don't u go somewhere where u are sure the women are available. or have a friend introduce u to someone who is single. i think u made too much of her "signs." when u asked her she was honest with you so move on
2007-03-15 13:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if the girl is new as in you just know her, first try to talk to her as if you want to have a nice conversation, as in just comment on something with someone, no pressure nor flirt TOO much, just try nice smiles (by this point she only can see you as a guy doing a cool conversation, doesn’t know you are even single or maybe desperate! lol)... just asked on something she is reading or saying…. Then, let’s say you are talking on the weather (to pick a subject) and she mention she likes spring better than winter, you can use a line like “really? I like (or not) winter, may be you like spring because is your boyfriend’s favorite also…” there you get an answer if she is single or not with out asking her out… if she says she doesn’t have a boyfriend don’t ask her out as next step!... continue doing conversation (even if it’s only 5 more minutes) and by the end ask her out…
Some times a small conversation do more than flirting, because you can flirt with anybody, but picking a conversation she will know you are different....
2007-03-15 13:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Ray Ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you misinterpreted her "signals." Lots of girls smile at guys for reasons other than being attracted to each other. What exactly is a "flirty way" to smile, in the first place? If that's the only sign you had, you should get more insight.
My personal advice to you: Befriend a few of those girls to whom you are attracted first. Get to know them and you won't have something like this happen to you again. Just a thought...
Either way, good luck with your quest for a significant other!
2007-03-15 13:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by lafillelibertarian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh i am sorry you are finding this with our variety. Girls like to be admired by guys and they like to know that they are making an impression on you.
She is obviously insecure i would imagine as she likes to lead you on and then when it all goes to far she rests in the safety she has a boyfriend
OR She could just be really friendly and you took it the wrong way. There are plenty of single girls in thew world don't rest your hopes on the few problems you have.
Also are you coming across to strong? Just a thought
Better luck next time!
2007-03-15 13:13:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you poor dear, I would go out with you, but I have a boyfriend! Really, I do have one, but don't lose heart! I don't know about other countries, but dating here is a long road. Hang in there because once you find yourself a lovely American girl, you will have found all the time and effort you invested well worth it!!
2007-03-15 13:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she really does have a bf and flirts you maybe it just exciting for her. maybe she wants to see if shes still got the touch. i flirt with guys often and im getting married in a couple of weeks. i know for me i get a thrill when i flirt and guys respond well to me. Maybe not the best thing to do. But dont give up. I am sure there is someone out there for you who isnt in a relationship. So keep looking. But if you really do like this gal dont give up on her maybe sooner than later she and her bf will split up and youll be the one there to sweep her off of her feet!
2007-03-15 13:14:17 · answer #6 · answered by JP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is how i see it..she is a flirty girl..she has probably been in the relationship with her boyfriend for a while and she might want to flirt with other people than him. if a girl has a boyfriend and you don't know, just ask her before you ask her out, and if she does leave her alone because some men are crazy.
2007-03-15 13:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately she probably just flirted with you cause she wanted a tip. I myself don't do that if I'm taken. Its not really fair if someone does think you're giving off signals and you're really not. I'm so sorry for you. Very frustrating indeed
2007-03-15 13:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by exe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey...no sobs for you, please. Sometimes when women notice you noticing her..she feels maybe more flattered than attracted. But don`t give up, okay?..cuz` not all girls are the same. One day you will ask a girl out and she will say yes and it will be great. Don`t give up..good luck.
2007-03-15 13:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by heather h 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe before you get to far, you should ask " DO YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND?" that might save you some time.. but i think you don't ask because you really don't want to find out that yet again some one you are attracted to is taken
2007-03-15 13:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by yomyr2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋