When my second son was born (3rd in line) and got around 2 or 3, I noticed rather than play with his cars and trucks he would be sitting with his elder sister playing with barbie dolls. Then as he got older, instead of playing football ect with his brother or friends at school he would be home playing barbies and putting makeup on dolls. I can say I new (not even guessed) that he was to be gay. To meet him today, no one would know for sure as he is not flamboyant and thank god not still playing with barbies (haha). He told me he did not know untill he was about 13/14, I feel I knew all along. For those that have come out (and good on ya!!) do you think your parents new deep down.
2007-03-15 12:56:48 · 18 answers · asked by Leah 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
When I came out, my mother said, "thank God, we have been waiting for this.".........well, more or less.
I was 24..tee hee.
Its not about traits, or sexuality its about knowing "hey, my child love this and this and this....and ahem *also* this."
My mother knew I didn't like chemistry, and she knew I didn't like men. She knows me, so she knew I was gay. That's how it works.
2007-03-15 13:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by sarah s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I haven't really come out to my family yet, but I am pretty sure they know. A few of my family members have made comments to me that lead me to believe they are aware of my orientation (nothing bad, just things that make me think they know). There is one member of my family that will not react in a positive way (he has a tendency to hate anyone who isn't white, straight, etc). He is the reason I haven't told my family yet. I will come out when I meet a person that I know will be worth the reaction of some of my family, someone to kind of help me through it. But to answer, I think for the most part if a parent is close to you they will know.
2007-03-16 02:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother once told me when I was about 12 that she didn't want any surprises, that if I had something to tell her, I should do so then and there. But I wasn't sure, so I didn't bother.
I still haven't told my parents. My girlfriend, who's way older than me and knows about this kind of stuff, still doesn't know my mom. However, she says she's almost certain that my mother knows about me. (because of things my mom says or does)
I think parents who take time to really know their children can suspect at certain times, unless they're not very open about things. My mom knows me very well and it wouldn't surprise me if her reply is "...thank God! now that THAT'S off our chests, lets go out..."
btw, I haven't told them because I want to graduate from college first... I don't want anything to ruin my education... just in case her reaction is not what I suspect...lol
2007-03-15 20:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by Fashionista 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am straight. I knew a family years ago where I thought that two of the fours son might be gay. They didn't come out till their father died. The mother said she always knew.
2007-03-15 20:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by Philo42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is an innateness that some parents have at reading their children. Not all, but some. My mother was offended when I told her that I figured she knew I was gay. She told me not to ever assume again as I was her beloved son and no matter what, she did love me. ZOIKS!
2007-03-15 20:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I told my mother she said "How can anyone be a mother and not know" apparently she knew all along too. I knew during the 1st grade at age 6.
2007-03-15 20:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I don't believe that being gay necessarily meant that the boys played with the dolls, or the girls played with tool boxes, which are both stereotypes, I will agree that mom's usually know, deep down.
As the bumpersticker says, "MOM KNOWS."
Many thanks for being a supportive mom. Many of us come from unsupportive families.
2007-03-16 00:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by tg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't always like that. Not every boy who exhibits feminine behavior is gay nor is every girl who exhibits masculine behavior is a lesbian. However, sometimes those factors do give early childhood signs of being homosexual/lesbian, but not always. Believe me, there are macho men & girlie girls who are also gay too, and same is true for effeminate guys & "butch" girls who sometimes are straight. Not every parent knows, in fact many are oblivious.
2007-03-15 19:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by Dusk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's probably a lot of guilt in most mothers, so they would rather deny or cover up the fact than admit.
2007-03-15 20:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by lmnchcgfl2000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A mother always knows.
2007-03-15 20:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by pantyhoselover2182 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋