Why do people stay wth jealous/abusive lovers? Don't they know that there is...?

Question

a whole new world out there - for their happiness?

Let us all say and pray together - no fcuker will hurt me again... this is your planet people - just be good to others or expect the wrath"""!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Answer 1

self esteem has a lot to do with it. if a person doesn't know their own worth, they can't believe in the possiblity that there is someone else who does.

Answer 2

I wish I knew the real reason as I stayed for 14 years in that situation . That was from the age 12-26 . My first love & father of my 2 children & at the age of 16 he started with the abuse I guess I thought things would get better ,but they didnt I was almost killed by him. I managed to get out & life has been very good since. I cant imagine why I done it now & when I see it happening to others it makes me so upset as I know they think there is no way out but Im living proof ! If I done it anyone can . I am now with a wonderful man who would never even yell at me much less any thing else. My kids are grown but have suffered alot from what they had to experience so if people stay for the kids they are totally wrong ! Life is too short!

Answer 3

Some people don't recognise it as abnormal behaviour. Some people can't see a way out without being seriously damaged.
Some people believe they love their jealous/abusive partners.
Some people think they don't deserve any one better or will not find anyone better because they don't just get battered, they lose their self esteem as well.
I could go on but if you've never been in the situation, your thought processes just do not comprehend the mental brainwashing that occurs when in this type of relationship. What is worse is when you come out of it, you can't believe that anyone else is REALLY being loving and it makes new relationships very difficult. Lecture over. Sorry.

Answer 4

This is a very big problem with people nowa days. These people have such low self esteem and think that they wont be able to find any one else to love them so they stay with the person that hurts them. I believe that they love this person but its more a matter of being stable and comfortable in their enviroment. After the relationship ends (if it they are still alive) they should seek counseling or the pattern will continue on with themselves and possibly there children.

Answer 5

Oh, you better believe that they know there is a world of happiness out there. They dream and read and live their fantasies through the media. They find clever ways in their mind to escape and not have to face themselves or the plight that they are being subjected to.

Some people stay in jealous or abusive relationships because of fear of their abusers. Others stay because of insecurity reasons. Many people have their self-esteems beaten down by their parents. Quite a few people stay in these relationships because they have small children. Then there are those who feel that they have no one to turn to or any place to go. Therefore, in their line of thinking, it is easier if they submit to their abusers and stay in their situation. Then you have those people who are very materialistic and think of their clothing or household furnishings before they think of themselves. Sad!

But, whatever their so-called reason is, it is not good enough for them to continue to stay in a relationship that threatens their health and well-being or the safety of their children.

If you or anyone that you know is in a jealous or abusive relationship, I say, GET OUT!

Answer 6

We stay because they have damaged us so much.....we are trapped....in the cycle and while we can recognise the abuse soem other need is being met within us. When we are with the person and honestly examine all the feelings with in ourselves and we do not feel good or we are afraid to speak our mind we have to find the strength to leave. This strength is not always as easy as itsounds. But having left and wekks into the parting the sense of relief kicks in.

Answer 7

It's simple - it is because it is easier to stay in a "comfort zone", than leap into an unknown. They get used to being treated in a certain way and don't know any different. My friend has a husband, who is a gambler and an alcoholic. She stays with him because of money he can earn despite the fact that he does not treat her with respect. Every time I talk to her I hear "well, what, do you think that it's all rosy in other marriages". She simply tries to tell me that she does not believe in the possibility of being in a happy relationship. There you go - she keeps being with him. I know he hit her once, I just hope that she confronts her beliefs and fears and changes her life and the life of her kids.

Answer 8

People stay in jealous/abusive situations because they have little or no self confidence. Where there is physical abuse, there is mental abuse. The mental abuse is crippling, and impossible to prove, there are no bruises... When someone in an abusive relationship finally finds the courage to reach out for help, it's usually too late, because they've pushed all their friends away. If you know someone in this kind of situation, don't give up on them... If they keep reaching out, they're trying!!! They want out, but they're afraid, what if the next person is worse... They must learn independence! Don't give up on them... If everyone gives up on them, they will give up too!!

Answer 9

Sad to say, but some don't know there is a whole world of happiness for them. It's psychological really. People stay in these bad relationships because someone has told them that no one else will want them or no one else will be better for them. As people we need to start be happily single before we jump into these sorry relationships. Good luck

Answer 10

Psychologically. This might have to do with their childhood. The "people" who tend to stay with their abusive lovers tend to be women. These women might have witnessed a mother figure in their life go through an abusive relationship. Therefore they develop this mentality to be submissive to their lovers. Or they feel that they need to be dominated by their lovers.

Answer 11

They are left in a situation where there is no choice. They stay for the sake of their children, or they do not have the financial capability to live independently.

I have seen so many cases like this where the wife totally depends her upkeep from her husband's earning. Sad and desperate life, but she is at his mercy. Reality jolts?