hey some questons about SEX??

Question

who do you put first?
Married people: how often do you do it?
if I get married at about 21 on a scale from 1 to 10 how big is it gonna be in my life?

Answer 1

What do you mean...Who do you put 1st? You cant ask how big a part is sex gonna play in your married life. Every married couple is different

Answer 2

If anyone answers these questions for you and says that sex is not that important, they are either lying, in denial or they are currently in a bad relationship. The absolute fact is that sex is very important in a relationship. Men and women will always look at sex differently and the push and pull here between the two sexes will determine when, how much, how often, and the quality.

Who do you put first???? If you are putting yourself first, the quality, quantity and frequency of your sex/intimacy will decline over time. If you place your partner first, sexual intimacy will be much better.

For married couples, the frequency of intimacy depends on numerous factors. When a couple first starts dating, they go at it all the time. It is new, exciting, and there is a growing emotional bond that is fostered by sexual intimacy. Many people report that the first months of dating/marriage were the best "sex" months of their relationship. If you don't work on your relationship with one another, then the sex won't get any better.

The last question, "How big is sex gonna be in my life?" is like asking how important is oxygen in your life. Notice that I have intertwined the terms sex/intimacy. If anyone hopes to have a strong and lasting relationship you will need to constantly work on intimacy. For guys and girls the work to foster intimacy may involve different strategies but that result is the same and sex is a huge part of of that bond.

To have a relationship that lasts over time, both partners will need to work on intimacy. Men and women have always viewed sex differently and that is unlikely to change anytime soon but couples that enjoy a healthy sex-life usually do many things to foster both emotional and physical intimacy and bonds for one another. As a relationship matures over time many couples express that their "sex life" has had its ups and downs and that usually parallels the other aspects of their relationship.

I'm sure this was not the answer you were looking for but the question itself is very difficult to answer. A relationship at 21 years old looks and feels very different than a relationship and 31, 41, 51 61, etc. Sex alone will not get you through the years. Sex alone will not give you the intimacy you seek. Sex will never be unimportant in a relationship. There may be periods in your relationship when you are not having sex with your partner but if you take a look at those times you may discover that the two of you are not connected. When you are connected (connected emotionally, spiritually, physically etc) the sex/intimacy grows and it grows in good ways.......and the sex can become incredible. Even better than the first few months of your relationship.

Answer 3

No one should be "put first", sex is partnership.
It should be a 55/55 proposition. As it has been said, eat of the same loaf, but not of the same slice, drink of the same wine, but not from the same cup.
The number of times is not important, but that it is not just a lustful act, but a loving act. One both can and will enjoy. Also not just chore or duty of either one of the partners, but something they want to do out of love for each other. So it happens when each person truly wants it etc.
Getting married is and should be a ten at any age. For marriage is one of the most important times in a personal life.

Answer 4

Sex is a big thing in marriage, but companionship and trust count a whole lot more. For the first few years, making love (NOT 'having sex') seems to be a big thing. After several years, it tones down to something very nice and gentle (sometimes rough and randy, though), and a lot of just holding. Especially when the kids come along. The lady sometimes is beat after putting up with the kids...guys should be helping out. Guys should be helping out around the house, too. It's not being a wuss to do the dishes, fold and put away the laundry, feed, change and bathe the baby. That's being a REAL man. I hope some guys are reading this.
In all my love making years (I learned this early on)...SHE is the one to receive the pleasuring first. (thanks to my first 'real' gf of 3 years in high school who started me on my education in loving a woman right). When a guy can learn that, he'll have a better chance of keeping his lady with him instead of having her looking for a guy who is interested in pleasuring HER instead of being selfish and only thinking of himself. And it's not WHAM, BAM, THANKY MA'AM and then roll over and go to sleep. I fell asleep just after ONE TIME..and found myself lying on the floor wondering what happened.
I've passed my experiences of learning to please a woman on to my 2 sons.
(married over 38 years to the same sexy, loving lady)

Answer 5

SEX will be a big thing when you are that young and married believe me!! that is on a 10 scale

Answer 6

You both communicate and it works out all round satisfaction don't hold anything back remember you are partners in everything you do. Sex is important lots of problems are solved with a real good one so yes its important. If you do as I say yes you will not only want it you will need it and always want your partner to have the same desires as yourself, who has to be pleased the most does not come into this model each of you are the same.

Answer 7

I've been married for about 1year and a half. And my husband aand I do it amost every day, the longest we take without doing it is 2 days not mare than that!! before we got married we also had sex every single day!! But whe started having sex 8 months after we satrted to go out!!

Answer 8

At 21 your looking at least 5 time a week.

Answer 9

Im not married but i know that sex is a big part of marriage. Sex is a good thing. All couples do it.

Answer 10

dont get me wrong,sex is important to hold a relationship,or marriage togeather,but it shouldnt be the main think.the main thing is trust,and how well both people get along.sex is important,but it should be put on the back burner.its something to do when everything else is done.i love sex as well as the next person,but it shouldnt stand in your way of the things that needs done,to keep a household togeather.