My husband and I been together since I was 18, I am now 32, we have 3 children and one on the way, to make a long story short, we were devastated when we found out I was prego again and I delt w/ it and now I am happy BUT hubby says he still has "emotions" about it. OK, heres the question, I noticed hubby was drawn from me and thats when I ? him about it and thats when he told me about his "emotions" well, needless to say he had a "text messaging fling" w/ one of his co-workers, nothing physical ( I know for a fact, trust me) anyway, when I confronted him, he denied it and said nothing was going on then later told me she liked him and he "kinda" liked her but not to the extreme anyway, my hubby has never, ever done this and now it's ended w/ him and her( I checked his cingular history) and he's been kissing my a$$ like crazy, real lovey dovey. I am still hurt and I am trying to forgive him but I just can't. Should I forgive him? Is it just my hormones ( I am 5 months pregnant)? Thanx
2007-03-15 12:34:02 · 7 answers · asked by daveswife75 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Difficult one because you have been together for ages and have so many kids together plus you are pregnant so would not do anything extreme. I would ask him to go to a few sessions of conselling to try and work out what is wrong and why he was getting feelings for another woman.
I would not be able to forgive him just like that. I would make him realise what he could lose if he did something stupid.
2007-03-15 12:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know about forgiving but make sure he knows that he has to rebuild the trust between you two. It will take time, but he shouldn't expect you to just forgive easily.Let him know that there is nothing known as 'harmless', he still betrayed your vows.Let him know he is on probation until such time you feel you can trust him again. He has to work his way up.Either way, it may help to also sit and talk and if possible go for couples counseling to get to the root of the problem now before it escalates.
2007-03-15 19:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd watch him like a hawk, he works with her so how the heck can you trust what he is doing when he leaves the house? Try to work out your marriage but the little bit of trust he lost is going to take time to get back.
2007-03-15 19:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he realised he made a mistake, and regrets it, forgive him and give him another chance, I wish you the best.....Jesus loves you
2007-03-15 19:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you never made a mistake in your life? Forgive him. I know you love him.
2007-03-15 19:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive he didnt actually cheat just lost ur trust in him let him make it up to u
2007-03-15 20:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by Rox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would forgive him but---just keep up your appearance and don't get fat and sloppy looking,
2007-03-15 19:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋