What's wrong with me?

Question

I am 17, on varsity basketball, and I am fly. But nobody cares about me. I have never known anyone (except for my pet rat). I have no friends. At lunch, I sit with my back against the wall watching everyone laughing and looking happy with their friends, and this always makes me feel like I am useless and that I have no life. I have never kissed or been kissed by a girl, never hugged or been hugged by a girl, never held hands, and I have never even known a girl even as a friend. I try to be real nice and polite, and I have a filthy hip-hop looking outfit (I only have one outfit because I can't afford another one, but the one outfit I have now is filthy). Why am I such a loser?

Answer 1

Don't think of yourself like that. You're not a loser. I don't know what's wrong with you or with every one else as to why you don't have any friends. But you should never put yourself down like that. There must be something you could do to make friends. Join a school club and get more involved. Or if you go to church join some type of youth group there. Don't be discouraged to talk to new people. I hope you do find some good friends. I know it can be very lonely with out them. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

I really, really feel for you. I'm serious. You're not a loser, I swear. Losers are the dudes who plunge filthy needles into their arms, live off vodka and weed, and shortly after die of an overdose or suicide.
Please, keep your chin up for me, and walk out there and start talking to someone who seems nice. (You might want to start with the less popular people, who need friends just, or nearly, as bad as you.)
You might be a bit conceited, despite everything you say about your being a loser. You called yourself, "fly," though if I recall correctly, "losers" were not fly. =)
I seriously doubt that you have one, single, solitary outfit, and a dirty one at that. Wash it in a creek or something. You have to have /some/ money. Most kids your age work, ya know. McDonald's is a good place to get started.
On the other hand, don't be offended, but you might have a social problem. Talk to a professional or join a group.
Hey, I know high school can be tough. If you feel really, really, /really/ down, feel free to e-mail me. G'luck.

Answer 3

Oh, you are certainly not a loser. Least you have dignity, all the other people care about is fashion, looking good and sports. Consentrate on your education because when you come back for the reunion in 10 years your gonna be so much better than those losers, all the girls will be preggers, look like crap, and are on drugs! But every girl wants a nice and polite guy, these girls at your school obviously don't see it. You should get a ferret they are so freaking cute, more so than rats but its always good to have a pet cause they will always be there for you, and you can always talk to them and they don't talk back! but anyway that probally didn't help.. But I wish you all the best in life.

Answer 4

You are not a loser. You just have not taken enough time yet to get to know yourself and learn about all the wonderful qualities you have to offer in a friendship or even a romantic relationship. Why don't you try sitting in a new spot for lunch once in a while. When you pass someone in the hall way just say hello - start just staying hi to certain people - most people are pretty friendly, but you have to show yourself friendly as well first. If you want to have friends, show yourself friendly. All the best.

Answer 5

1st of all, STOP SAYING THAT YOUR NOT A LOSER!! Look your 17 get a weekend job and buy new clothes.. try setting goals for yourself tell yourself next month you'll be a new person! Friends aren't hard to make try saying hi or hey to people.. hang with people that you think you can talk and relate things to... I'm sure your parents care about you alot.

As for the girl thing they say good things come later in life. and I believe that give it some time I'm sure the perfect girl will come along soon.. look I am a girl and I can be your friend!! see look friends aren't hard to find.. well I hope this helps if you need anymore help here's my email [e-mail]

Answer 6

Well, maybe you just need to hang out with your friends from the basketball team. And try to talk to girls and ask them out on dates that will always get them to talk to you. But write your crush a note or somthing just be more social. J/W if you only have one outfit then why do you have a computer and are on the internet??? The advice i would giveyou about the outfit would be get a job and clean up a little bit.

Answer 7

You just need confidence, and maybe some new clothes. First start looking around in Hospice stores, Goodwill stores or Thrift Stores of any kind...they may not be the most stylish clothes, but create your own style and wear it with confidence. With your new look start going up to people at luchtime and just asking "hey can I sit here? My name is(insert name here) and start talking about music, movies, books...whatever kids your age are into these days. Approach the situation with confidence and stop thinking, "oh I'm such a loser." try to meet at least five new people a day, try to remember their names and some of the things that interest them. You'll have friends in no time.

Answer 8

nothing is wrong with you, its them!!!
dont worry - I had only one friend at high school
that didnt bother me - at the time - besides I was shy
and you know school is the hardest time of your life that you go through - especially when kids can tend to be nasty
and hey please wash your outfit - get a good stain remover spray and soak it - soak it good
and your not a loser - dont have an attitude like that
feel good about yourself - you will make friends
gee I didnt make many friends at all in life
and I am 40 but I am happy

Answer 9

First thing, Wash the outfit. People like people who smell nice. Particularly girls. Secondly, make an effort to join in. Talk to people rather than sitting with your back to the wall. It's hard, particularly if you're an introvert, but no one is going to bite your head off. Life is short. Carpe diem.

Answer 10

you are NOT a loser
start respecting your self --- who is telling you you add no value., dont listen to them
no one has friends they have school mates and neighbors
you will go thru life with 0-1 friend-but know a lot of people

CHANGE your attitude
hang with people who like you and do not know you
volunteer at a first aid squad
do volunteer work
help people
help neighbors
the more you help and give the more you get back