Do you know that love in marriage is a VERB?

Question

Love is something you do. Anyone married many years know that love is something you both must work hard at doing. So many talk of falling in or out of love. That is a temporary crush. True love is a great effort, for life. Then you will be happy. Did you know this?

Answer 1

Yes marriage takes work, but it's worth it. That's why the divorce rate is so high, nobody wants to put forth the effort.

Answer 2

You say that people who fall in and out of love have only experienced a crush? I don't think temporary was necessary. Crush,itself, is a brief feeling.
True love, wow,you have me really thinking.You love your child,you love your parents,but that is a much different love,isn't it?That I think we call ingrained,or, shall we say,a blood relative . When we meet someone,are attracted to them physically,mentally and emotionally,not related, that love is entirely different.You want to be with this person all the time. Oh my God, my partner.I want to share, I want this person to be a part of me. I love her/him.
That is absolutely, in my mind,so different where we can't compare the two.
When we feel in the early stages of the partnership that this person will always be the one I fell in love with , well,you know that is bullshit.People change,we do, they do. No matter how much great effort you put into it .You love that person you were with but not the person who is now with you

Answer 3

Your right;
Love Is a Verb, Not a Noun
By Dr. Richard Boyum

Joseph Campbell, the mythologist, said that for human relationships to grow and sustain themselves, they must be at the center of our experiencing. This is not an easy task in a highly mobile and productive society. Yet, what polls show is that what people prize most are their close, interpersonal relationships. Humans do need to believe in something bigger than themselves and relationships are their top choice. While e-mail, post its, cards, letters, and phone calls help, it is face-to-face that real human experiences occur. In face-to-face relationships we are in real time. We can see, hear, taste and smell those who are with us. While each of us needs some solitude, it is the lack of intimacy and isolation that, both literally and figuratively, kill the human body and the human spirit. Each person in a relationship needs to create their own set of healthy habits to keep their relationships at the center of their lives. For starters, consider these five ideas.


Choose time together over material gifts. It is in so doing that material gifts will remind you of the giver.
Never stop dating. On a weekly basis find something to do that puts your focus on dating with each other rather than fulfilling your other obligations. Based on the circumstances of your lives, you can decide how that date takes place and what will occur.
Set aside regular times to be together. Each week use this time to talk with each other about your lives, concerns and relationship. The word with is important here. You are to talk with each other, not to or at. The right preposition makes a big difference in the quality of your conversation. Think of this time as "show and tell" for adults.
Stay in touch. The largest organ of the human body is our skin. Structure determines function. We need to touch and to be touched. Decide with each other when and what kind of touching keeps your relationship at the center of your lives. Sometimes it may be a "romantic connection" and sometimes it may be a hand rub or simply sitting side-by-side.
Know the difference between forgiving and forgetting. Go figure, couples that experience a lot of years together make mistakes. But couples that stay together have learned to travel light. They leave their baggage from their families, with their families and they let go and learn form mistakes that are part of the human experience.
Trust the relationship until mistrust is warranted. Too many times people worry about a good thing going bad when the relationship is just fine. (Remember that perfection is a trap.) Enjoy it! If the two of you are communicating and if you trust yourself, it will be easier to trust your partner in the relationship.
Remember that love is a verb and not a noun. If your behavior doesn't show it, you really don't know it. Hence, do numbers one through six to keep love in activity rather than something that sits on the shelf.
Finally, consider developing a mutually agreed upon mission statement for your relationship. This statement is based on both your values and your goals. As a couple you can decide what steps must be taken to fulfill the mission of your relationship. When things in life get crazy, referring back to your mission statement will help you find the center of your relationship and your life. Remember that every hurricane has a clam center.

Answer 4

Yeah, love isn't like in the movies where everything goes soft and music plays.

Sometimes love is waking up at 4am because your spouse is puking their guts up, getting them a bucket and making them laugh while wiping the gunk off their faces.

Answer 5

Yes. Love = Action. How we treat others is an indication of how much we love them. I'm very happy although all my days are not perfect!!

Answer 6

LOL! Yes, I have a feeling I'm aware of it since I have been doing LOVES since my hubby and I got together.

SMILE… <3

Answer 7

Yep. Too bad I'm a slow learner. :)

Answer 8

I know it, I just wish I could figure out how to do it right. :(

Answer 9

Yes, I did.
Great Comment!!!!! Kudos to you.

Answer 10

So other than moot what's the point?