Need help with my youngest brother!!!?

Question

Ok, my youngest brother used to be a good kid and a smart kid. Hell, he was even in the national honor society and he graduated with Magna *** Laude. After he graduated, he took a job in EB games and slowly he becomes the assistant manager, and take college classes and managed to save almost $5,000. About a year and half ago he started to date this girl. Since then he's been talking back to my parents he lost his job and he used to look very nice and clean, now he looks like some druggy, even though he doesn't used drugs. I'm a cop, so he doesn't dare to do it.
However about six months ago he move away from home and got an apartment which he was supposed to split the bils with his girlfriend, but now since he broke up with her; she didn't keep the end of the bargain and didn't pay for the last payment for the apartment. Now, my brother ask me for $790 to help him to pay for the bill. I just started my job and I'm a little tight on the money, but I can spare it. What should I do?

Answer 1

You need to first realize that it doesn't matter how well you play the game, it doesn't propare you for the battle field which is human relationships. It doesn't matter if the guy got a doctorate in money making, it still isn't going to propare him for having to deal with the "real" world. We always assume that the "real" world is nothing more then the advancment of ourselves for fun and profit. That no one is anyone unless there highly accomplished finacial wizards with million dollar houses and weekends in forgien countries. Far, far from the truth of real success. The fact is you can't really say weather he is doing drugs anymore or not because you like most of us in western culture I know, isn't exactly in his life anymore. Sure your a phone call away, sure maybe you see him on family reunions or even when you guys visit. But it isn't enough to keep someone from felling the loneliness of a society were everyones just trying to help themselves. Its not your fault I'm just here to tell you that if you really want to help you brother, I mean if you really "need" to help him, then simply put, Talk To Him!!! Time to start communicating because I'm more then sure when she came into the picture you just sorta washed your hands (if you havn't done that sooner in his life) that he really needs you, and not just you, FAMILY. Weather its blood or just close friends. Thats what really measure success in this world, yea its not want wall street or MTV talks about but that doesn't make it any less of the truth. But the fact is any person left to survive on there own (doesn't matter what they have with them) it becomes harder and harder to be moral, to be right, shoot to be human. We need each other and were only as strong as our personal relationships let us be. I don't care how successful a person becomes, show me how they are after they loss it all and I'll show you what they were trying to hide the whole time. We loss site of this all, as we all try to survive for ourselves. Look at the last thing you said "Now, my brother ask me for $790 to help him to pay for the bill. I just started my job and I'm a little tight on the money," Seems your pretty much condition to think thats the only way your going to help the kid, and since you don't got the money your throwing your hands up in frastration. Stop! You have the power to help him, just love the guy, talk to him, relate your feelings and concerns; he is your bro! If he was the great guy you saw him to be, then realize its because he lost you guys in his life that he has had to find ways to cope. Its not fair to believe that everyone is so selfish that all they want to do is find partners, have lots of money, and die. I'm sorry but if you have a heart you need more then that, and from the sounds of it, he had heart, I'm just here to tell you that the classical way society plays out our lives. You can almost gaurantee that his big heart is breaking right now, in a lot of ways just like the rest of us. You have the power thou and love to help him thru it, that choose is yours, just remeber patience is the virtue and humility is your tool, good luck.

Answer 2

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