Thinking of leaving!!?

Question

A couple of years ago we moved to Ireland. While I was sorting the new house I would fly over to see my wife as she was still working for a couple of months in the UK before she moved. I went over to surprise her and she wasn't happy to see me. She received a text message that night from some guy she worked with, saying that he wanted to see her that night and was thinking about her. Well I approached her about this and she informed that nothing had happened yet and she will stop all contact. I text him back asking why he was texting my wife and that seemed to stop it.

Now were living in Ireland and I hate it so much, I miss my friends and going out. My wife goes and sees her family twice a week. Leaving me alone. I have recently started to fly back alot to the UK just to go out. I have told her that I am away to the UK for 6 months to work, but I don't want to return to Ireland everyday I am there I think about leaving and she just says I am being unfair.

Thanks for all the answers, making me think a little more. Just needed to release the burden of living here. I know I must leave here as I don't think I can survive another year. Will she come with me well sometimes it's a yes and other times it's a no. Her friend says I am being unreasonable to take her away from her family after not being near them for over ten years. I am leaving for the UK for a while and that is the only thing that keeps me going. Her family are very protective and I am never allowed to say a bad thing about them. We all have our faults and my family ain't no saints, but I never met a family that bitches about people behind there back so much. To be truthful I think it will be between me and her family and I don't want her to chose.

Answer 1

DO YOU THINK YOUR WIFE IS GOING TO SEE HER FAMILY AND WHY SO OFTEN ?

Answer 2

Marriage is the key! Is it over, because it would seem like that... surely if you care for each other then there must be a way of sorting out this problem why are you not moving back to where you are happiest? It is time to sort out the problems and move on.

Answer 3

do you feel that you never realy had closure on the work guy thing are you saying that you want a separation from your wife or ireland only you can answer this and when you have please talk to your wife find out where she realy wants to be is it with you or is it time to part whatever descision that you make i wish you well

Answer 4

It sounds like your lifestyles do not mesh. I don't see how this can work, unless one or both is willing to sacrifice a bit. For her to just flatly say, "you are being unfair" tells me she is not very willing to even work with you on a solution.

Answer 5

Hi i have been through a similar situation to u its up to u wat u decide to do and u wont take n e 1's advice because u dont when it involves a loved one. just do what u think is the right thing to do. thats wat i did after years of being cheated on and not trusting my ex everytime i couldnt see him and doubting stupid things, i have found a real man who i am now engaged to and we r expecting our first son in june and i know just from knowing he would never cheat on me and i belive if u follow what your heart tells u to do u will sort out wat u want to do in the end. good luk hope you find a happy life :)

Answer 6

that sounds kinda fishy.(the other guy). It isn't fair to u either. Your not happy but she is. Maybe it isn't the right time for u guys. Sit down and try talkin to her about it and she what happens. Good luck.

Answer 7

I empathise

Answer 8

you need help but I'm not the one to tell you to leave her.Sorry!

Answer 9

you both need to sit down and talk....

Answer 10

LEAVE THEN