would you date someone who was married with kids?
2007-03-15 12:06:07 · 63 answers · asked by kisskiss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I'm married. But if you are asking if you will ever get a date, yes you will. There are men out there who aren't intimidated by women with children. There are lots of men who love kids.
2007-03-15 12:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who was previously married with kids ? If divorced, yes, remember there will be some baggage from ex. At the divorce rate over 50% in the USA, 1/2 dating people have ex's then at least 50% of those will have children. Start slow, please do not look at divorced women as "easy" After a few dates you will quickly find out or even see the ex. if he/she is a troublemaker or pschyo, consider moving on. It will never end. That is why its important to start slow. Be nice to the children, even consider buying them a present. They might look at you strange or act ugly. But be nice, if things work out, you might be helping raise them. I know this from experience !!
2007-03-23 07:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did and I married him. However now that I have kids with him and something were to happen divorce or death I would not date or remarry until the kids were out of the house. I don't think it is fair to the kids. It is a lot harder eventhough you know that he will be paying child support on those months that we run short on money due to spure of the moment accidents. I start resenting the ex wife who is getting all the money that we could have. Yes I was young and didn't understand at that point in my life that there would be hardships due to ex-wifes and stepchildren. It is all me not them. That is why I say no. It isn't fair to any of the children.
2007-03-22 08:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by Alsign 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its depend on how you feel about the person and his/hers kids. It can be a good thing and it also can be a bad thing.
There are few things you must take into consideration before you enter into a relationship with a person with kids.
1) What cause their marriage to dissolve and what part did the individual contribute to the break up.
2) How long have they been split up.
3) Does the other parent have any visitation rights.
4) What are the ages of the children and how they feel about their parent dating another person.
4) How well the children be willing to accept you.
5) Will the individual stand by you when you have to correct their children when they get out of hand. No double standard (he/she agree with you in front of their child. Then have a talk with their child one on one and change their position to satisfy the child).
As I said before, it can be a good thing and it can be a bad thing. Its all on how you feel and what are you will accept.
2007-03-15 12:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
BUT....I would take A LOT of things into consideration, because marriage is a BIG step and a serious one, too.
Honesty is essential here. For example, if you haven't been married or have kids and you are in love with someone who has been and has kids, all kinds of problems can arise.
So open your eyes and try to see things....Don't think "everything will work out fine" and "love is enough" because marriage is based on commitment and sacrifice.
2007-03-23 04:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not date someone that is still married especially with children. I am in the process of separation myself because my husband decided to cheat on me with the mother of our childrens best friend. So now not only is our marriage over but the kids have been hurt in the process. Her husband doesn't want their child around my husband and I don't want her around my kids. Now if someone is divorced and has kids yes if were single I would date them.
2007-03-23 11:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by lots2give 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way in hell. Remember married men never leave their wives. Also I will never want to the other woman. I will never settle for less. Why would I want another woman man that is not available to you when you need them. I would date someone with a kid cause I have a kid
2007-03-21 07:05:18 · answer #7 · answered by beenie 21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nooo why would you want to ruin someone else is marriage? If they are willing to go out with you, really what does that say about that person and what does that really say about you? If they are not happy in the marriage , then they should get out of the situation before dating someone, then they are free to do whatever they want. Leave well enough alone and date someone single and not attached.
2007-03-23 08:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by deborah_redsebring_convertible 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date - yes.
That's what dating is for, to find out if you are compatible with them and they (and their family) are compatible with you.
So absolutely, don't let the kids scare you, just don't get too intimate too quickly, in case it turns out that you don't like the situation, you can leave easily.
Good luck!
Correction: after rereading the question, if you mean they are married now, then absolutely not, if you mean previously married, then sure.
2007-03-15 12:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by Shultik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If They are not still married,Yes. Everyone should know that everyone else had a life befoe them. If I am interested in the lady,the Kids wouldn't make any difference.
2007-03-15 12:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by phockit47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋