i used to live on my own quite happily but since moving into new house with boyfriend i get very edgy when he's away. its not likely someone will break in and kill me is it??! how can i stop being so scared at every little noise? or big noises when my cats are crashing around making a racket!
2007-03-15 11:27:33 · 12 answers · asked by G*I*M*P 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
my boyfriend started working away last year and i felt exactly the same, i used to leave the bathroom light on at night and leave the tele on. Its been about seven months now and im totally fine, got that used to it im not scared anymore. Just try and relax, go to bed watch a bit of tele til you fall asleep. You'll be fine.
2007-03-15 11:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I felt like that when I got my own place with my bloke. Even though I lived on the first floor I was still convinced that someone could see in etc. I have a phobia of someone being able to look through the windows, when its dark outside and with the lights on in the place. Pull your curtains and keep some lights on, especially when you go to bed. You should feel better once you have got used to living there. If you have a garden then id reccommend getting a security light fitted.
2007-03-15 11:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by Lorraine A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey! It's normal! I used to live with just me and my son and when he was at school I couldn't stay in the house by myself. I had to go shopping or work overtime as I just felt really uncomfortable and lonely. Even now, I have a partner and another son, but when my older son is away somewhere it still feels weird and too empty without him. He's going away on a trip for four days soon and I have to book a holiday away for that time as I know I will miss him and I won't be able to function properly without him even tho my partner and my baby will be with me all the time!
I think it's just loneliness and the security of just having your boyfriend around and knowing that you are both safe with eachother. You're in love!!
2007-03-15 11:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by ~Kitana~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get scared in my house too when I'm alone and I've lived in it for 17 years! I remind myself it's daft but I can't help it.
I keep the telvision or radio on as background noise and I make sure that I feel safer by locking the doors and keeping the interior doors closed too
2007-03-15 12:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by RaVeN 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IMy room is a granny flat, in the outdoor of the more suitable domicile. each and every time I are available in at nighttime i'm scared some huge spider's gonna fall on me. i'm getting countless them in right here.. noticeably when you consider that there's a hugeish crack in the brick wall precise next to my mattress...
2016-10-02 04:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by nicholls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty well-known for scaring myself so I know how you're feeling. What I do at night if no one's around is turn on as many lights as possible, and I'll blast music or turn a TV on in another room so it seems like someone else is home.
2007-03-15 11:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah with an H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im like this, but i did have somebody come up behind me when i was on my own in my parents house and steal most my belongings!
i think its natural to feel scared when we are alone!every little noise is significant because its only you on your own, nobody here to help defend you, just yourself, and sometimes that can be very scary!
2007-03-15 11:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jemmax 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you living in a bad neighborhood? Something is causing you to be edgy. If this continues I'd talk it over with some one. Has your boyfriend made any remarks to cause this fear? Some messages given to us are quite sly and we don't catch them when they are made. Something has robbed you of your self confidence.
2007-03-15 11:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you are now codependent on complacencey. Fear is a form of weakness and only invites disaster, which can be helped if you know what it is you are now lacking.
2007-03-15 12:15:53 · answer #9 · answered by element_op 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your missing him when he leaves the house and t it becomes quite,put on a tv /radio and you will not feel alone .
2007-03-15 11:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋