do you think I am being to hard on wanting another child if she need a c-section?

Answer 1

C sections are very safe these days. Medical technology has come a long way. 2-3 babies born via c-section are fine.

Answer 2

If you want another child it is something you both have to agree on. You have to allow at least a year after the c-section for her to heal completely before you even start trying to get pregnant.....and she has to be willing. Depending on how the c-section came about she may really be afraid and you have to understand that. Some women are afraid that they will need another c-section, some are afraid that they will be forced by their doctors to try to have a vaginal birth after having a c-section. It is a very real, serious issue that needs to be addressed with the doctor and between the couple and ultimately in her own mind. You can't force the issue....you don't know the fear, for your child and for yourself.

I personally have had 3 c-sections and the second & third were scheduled in advanced....because of the reason I had the first. 60 years ago I could have very well died trying to give birth, right along with my child. Modern medicine is truly a wonder. Having scheduled c-sections is very different than going into through labor only to have to have a c-section because the baby or mother aren't doing well. The whole thing is more relaxed, the pain level is less, the recovery is shorter and you aren't stressed as much which adds to a better event.

If you truly want more children let her recover then make an appointment and have a good long talk with her ob/gyn. And each other. But don't push....Best wishes.

Answer 3

I had a c-section 6 years ago. I was in the hospital for 7 days, and it was not an easy recovery. However, I am currently trying to get pregnant as we speek. I would have never wanted to go through that again a year after having my son, but now I know that there are sacrifices to having children of your own. A lot of it will depend on how long it has been since the first c-section and how tramatic it was for her. She may just need time or more knowledge.

Answer 4

if its what u both want then why not.ive had 4 kids all by c-section 2 were emergencys c-section and the other 2 were planned. i would advise waiting 2 yrs inbetween thou like the doctors told me as there is a case where yr scar can rupture.but on the other hand i do advise u both to talk it threw as its hard work on the mother and bloody painful, but worth it when u see that lovely baby at the end.and i would not force yr partner if its not want she wants. sit down and talk it threw . all the best for u both and good luck. xx

Answer 5

I have had two and the pain and the recovery was a very little part of having a child - it was all well worth it to enjoy another child. If your wife is up for it, then why not.

Answer 6

Perhaps a little selfish. Do you understand what a C-section entails? It is MAJOR surgery!! Could YOU handle a six inch incision across your stomach, plus having to take care of a newborn every two hours, twenty-four hours a day? Think about it.
I have had broken bones, lung surgery, hernia surgery, foot surgery...none of it paled in comparison to the pain of my Cesearean surgery. Did you even help her with the first one? I mean changing poopy diapers, sterilizing bottles, laundry (you have to do it every day with a newborn), cooking, cleaning, dishes....Did you help? Or did you sit your fat a$$ down on the couch and expect HER to do it ALL?

Answer 7

I take it you want another baby but your wife would need a c-section if she had another


I think you two should adopt if you want another child. It is up to your wife what she does with her body.

Answer 8

That is not for you to say. If her c-section caused her enough trauma that she's considering not having any more children because of it, you get to keep quiet and say nothing.
Consider adopting, maybe.