My ex's mother is constantly threatening me if I do not let her see my daughter (ex. her son stop paying me child support) is careless with my daughter (burned once by mistake with cigarette, unexplained bruises, etc) and I would be happy if she wasn't involved in my daughters life at all. (At least until my daughter is old enough to decide)
I go to school full time and work on the weekends so I find it hard enough to spend enough time with my daughter. The grandmother gets upset if she doesn't have my daughter for at least one whole day a week and usually wants to take her without any notice.
My ex and I are trying to be friendly but it is hard with her always coming in between. He is paying unoffical child support because we didn't want things to get ugly in court.
So my questions are, does the grandmother have any legal rights at all and would it be wrong for me to keep my daughter away from her except for short visits?
2007-03-15 11:20:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Unfortunately I cannot quit school and stay home with my daughter. I am receiveing student loans and would need another job to pay it back.
2007-03-15 11:35:05 · update #1
My ex is actually a great father, but he works out of province so he sees my daughter about 4 months out of every year. We've tried numerous times to make our situation work (no, we aren't trying to get back together) but as soon as we think everything is fine, she turns around and calls him and stirs everything back up.
2007-03-15 11:38:52 · update #2
Unofficial child support is like unofficial rent. Your ex doesn't have to pay it. Schedule times at your place for grandma to come visit. You may not like it, but you'll remove the argument you could hear in court one day that you wouldn't allow your daughter to see grandma. Also, either get a support agreement or a lawyer to go back to court and get child support ordered. The money is for your child. Your ex has an obligation to her, and you have an obligation to see she's cared for.
2007-03-15 11:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by webned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In california, THE GRANDMOTHER MAY GO TO COURT and ask for visitation. if she has been a part of her, your childs, life from the beginning, she has a very good chance of getting visits. however, you may request that your ex. not be around only if he is deemed unfit. but, then they may send him to parenting classes, and then schedule supervised visits for some time and then it may lead to unsupervised...also, you should have a journal, and record everything... from the slightest to the biggest thing., Please remember that children will play rough, climb trees, trip, run into things, and become hurt, have a bruises and scratches, the burn, if it has only happened once, take it as an accident, twice? then do what you have to do. Oh yeah, take pictures of things like that.. dont deny the grandmother, if your pissed at the x. and try not to show any anger in front of your daughter, while the x or grandmother are around, this can be used against you. you said you were busy with school, use this to your advantage, your probably paying for child care, let the grandmother have her on the days of school. look at the long picture, this should motivate you to stay in and finish school, you will have so much time to spend with her....
2007-03-20 21:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by armando j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 Get official child support.
#2 Grand parents have no legal rights over mothers single or otherwise unless they are using discretion in cases of child abuse or neglect.
#3 If you have reason to believe that grandmother's actions (burned by cigarette and unexplained bruises) are harmful you can get a restraining order from the court or at least supervised visiting.
2007-03-15 11:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that i do no longer understand the legalities. yet as a pragmatic count number, you have disregarded necessary techniques. What does the custodial grand think of? have you ever talked to her, and informed her which you somewhat opt to stay interior the baby's life, choose your baby to comprehend her cousin and the cousin to have HER as cousin. No, the father has declared himself to be beside the point, so he has no ethical suitable to ANY say concerning to the baby, inclusive of prohibiting you and your baby from being in her life. till you already comprehend with incontrovertible fact that she'd say 'no' i think of you need to communicate along with her, clarify which you used to babysit for, and omit her, clarify which you somewhat choose the cousins to have a dating, and see if she's amenable to mutual visitations. If she consents, concern solved devoid of having to pull interior the regulation. If she says no, then see in case you may get loose or low fee criminal advise on what rights, if any, you have.
2016-09-30 23:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by zeitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can sue for absolutely anything and grandparents have established visituation rights in some U.S. courts. Documents those burns and bruises and fight back against any suit. Does she seem motivated enough to actually go to court or is she just trying to intimidate you?
If your child is under 6 yoa, why don't you quit school and spend the time with her she needs.
2007-03-15 11:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She has no rights.Your daughter doesn't need to be in contact with her if you mother in law is rude to you.
As soon as you are financially strong and have a good job,I advice you to move away,it sounds like your ex is not treating your child very well.
Good luck
2007-03-15 11:36:40 · answer #6 · answered by Charmed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has no rights at all. Zero.
File complaints for any injury already done to your little one, and allow grandma a half hour a month at your place in your presence to see her grandchild.
This is for the child's benefit, so that she doesn't romanticize a forbidden opportunity. She will know her grandma in all her bad habits and indifference, and that will be good.
2007-03-15 11:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by nora22000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as your ex is alive, your not a criminal, on drugs, or abusive she has very few rights. even though you don't want things to get ugly in court you might want to set out something in writing just in case. also your ex mother in law does not get visitation, your ex does. you don't need to let her take your kid unless your ex takes her to visit your ex.
2007-03-15 11:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by ranaway628 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has NO legal rights, and it would be wrong to keep her away. You need to work this out with your ex!
2007-03-15 11:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Insist on supervised visits,or just move away.Nothing legal in courts she is all yours.
2007-03-15 11:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋