I am married with alot of household duties, like taking care of hubby, dogs, cats, kids in an out and not alot of money.
Because of this I don't get out and have little friends. I used to be very outgoing and healthy.
Now I am afraid to try to join anything cause I never stick with it. Also, I like dance and pottery, crafts and some sports like tennis, swimming but I don't like to go to a gym alone.
How can I start going to places that will attract me enough to make it a routine and who can I get myself to start up conversations for a hopeful if not at least medocre friendship or two
2007-03-15 10:48:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
Hi, i know exactly how you feel - i was like that for quite a while - it is difficult to feel so tied to the home - all you want sometimes is peace and quiet - or sum time to yourself.
Dnt worry about never finishing anything - this is bcos your family takes priority to your own needs so its not you failing - its you prioritising.
When the time is right for you, the right thing will come along - there are plenty of people in the same boat of you, so you will have lots to talk about when you meet people you get along with, good luk * *
2007-03-15 11:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by Claire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem when I started college.. I moved away from my hometown and I didn't know anyone! I also had to work or be in class all of the time so it was hard to meet people and have hobbies. What I did was I enrolled in a spinning class at the gym that met just 1 night a week. It wasn't hard to sacrafice a couple of hours a week. It's crazy the bond you create with people by sweating with them. I also hated going out and doing things alone. To get past it I made it a point to go to at least one social function a month by myself. I forced myself to meet people. After you make a few aquiantances or friends, it gets a lot easier to have regular hobbies since you now have someone to call or call you to hang out.
2007-03-15 12:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by maggielynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, when did you move in to my house? lol I'm exactly the same. I have only a few good friends, that's all you need. I prefer quality over quantity. Try getting out with your kids once in a while, doesn't have to cost a lot. I can spend an hour at chuck-e-cheese for $5. Or hang out at the librarywith the kids for a while (would give you a chance to read poetry). Take them for walks, play in the snow, etc. Also make a point of doing something without the kids once in a while. Especially your birthday and your friends birthday's.
If all else fails, look me up, we can hang out! The kids, dogs and husbands can fin for themselves. LOL.
2007-03-15 11:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by Athena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide what interests you the most and then tell yourself, I will stick with this. I go everywhere alone and don't mind it one bit. If I can't get a friend to go with me, I go anyway by myself, no big deal. Why don't you take a class in school? Most community service classes only meet once a week. You'll meet people there. That's how I met my friend that I've known the longest in a night school class.
2007-03-15 10:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by Me, Myself & I 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a womans only gym(Curves is one we have here). They have 30 minute exercise classes and other things, your bound to meet some friends at a place like that.
2007-03-15 10:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by ♥mama♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should go 4 activities dat r more common. like making clay stuff, who wants 2 kno about a flower pot? play paintball or sumthing! please vote 4 me 4 best answer!
2007-03-15 10:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by nite of corpses 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋