So um my friend ash is really scared and doesnt know what to do....this guy (one of our other friends) j. cut her name into his leg, and put a skull under it (like cut with a razor) and he has been acting really possessive and protective of her lately and they arent even dateing...he asked her out and she hasnt answered yet because she thinks he's too unstable to have a gf .....I told her to be careful because he could get overly possessive and do something to her....what should i do? should i confront him about it? talk to her and him? or just tell the princable?
2007-03-15 10:21:08 · 13 answers · asked by blair 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't listen to Jane D, who says not to be a tattle tale, but RUN as fast as you can to your guidance office and tell them about this. I was a cutter as well, not for the same reasons, but had no one told on me, things would have gotten incredibly dangerous and I probably would've died. As it was, I was hospitalized and they told me I was a danger to myself. This guy, on the other hand, is a danger to your friend as well. You need to go to the counselors, both of you, and tell this story. They will call him in and take appropriate action, as well as try to protect your friend from him. There was also a time when I was a freshman that a guy I had previously dated and wanted nothing to do with was repeatedly sexually harassing me. I had to put up with inappropriate comments and touches in school every day. When the guidance office was notified, the principal (I was very close to our principal) became involved and ordered the boy to stay away from me. He protected me before things got too serious, and they can do the same for your friend.
Don't wait to do this until it's too late.
Good luck.
2007-03-15 10:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by kitsune_baku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a tattle tale. Give some advise to the girl. Stay away from the boy. Or at least not too close. He suffers fom manic depression and has probably been abused or neglected. He may grow up to be abusive if he's not already. Sometimes cutting gives a different kind of pain to block another kind he may be receiving. It could be emotional pain, or guilt for something he's done wrong. He needs psychiatric help. It's not normal to harm yourself. He may be seeking attention. He may become suicidal.
2007-03-15 10:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by J Doe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. this is not something you should take lightly. Behaviors that involved self-mutilation as you described indicate someone with some truly deep seated problems.. Don't confront him.. that would only endanger you as well, even though you hate to do it, this is one of those cases where you really need to get someone in authority involved. Also, she shouldn't keep this from her parent or guardian.. If she is worried about their reaction, perhaps she has one "cool" parent who would be more likely to listen without freaking out.. so yeah, at the very least tell the principal or guidance counselor
2007-03-15 10:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by aralissselundel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell the principle, then stay out of it. Your friend needs to stay away from him. You may have seen on the news last week, about the girl in Michigan, who changed schools to get away from her ex-boyfriend. He went to her new school and shot her 4 times. And then he shot himself. she was lucky and she lived, he didn't. If you think her safety is at risk tell an adult. I'm sure you would rather have your friend around than take a chance on her being hurt.
2007-03-15 10:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by fg812 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay away from him. You and your friend. Dont confront hi becasue he seems to be really unstable. He sounds dangerous and if you confront him that might set him off. be carful. If things get too out of hand I would go to the police.
2007-03-15 10:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just try to talk to an adult you trust or the police if it is that bad. Just follow your gut does it tell you to talk to him or mind your own business? Do w/e you think feels right. But if you think it could possibly endanger the life of someone back away and allow the authorities to take care of it.
2007-03-15 10:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by s_dawn_hall 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should probably tell the principal. He seems to have problems that his parents may not know about but should know about. Confronting him about it will do nothing but perhaps piss him off-he needs help. She should not go out with him because that will probably make the situation worse.
2007-03-15 10:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell the Principal, this guy needs help. Neither you or your friend should be alone with him or say anything that might provoke or upset him. Cutting her name into his leg is obsessive, you are right to be concerned.
2007-03-15 10:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to stay as far away from this dude as she can, there isnt anything good that can come out of a possesive relationship, she needs to just continue to be friends with him and if that doesnt work then just stop haning out with him all together...until he calms down a little or something....
2007-03-15 10:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Ashley♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him and tell him to get it together if he doesn't change then I would tell the princable.
2007-03-15 10:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by latina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋