I had been going to a social worker for counseling. He had been very helpful to to over the years. I dont?

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think I was as pleased with anyone as I am with him. I see him about two times a week. However, over the last year or so, I noticed that every time I pay him or pay his fees, his hands would rub against mine. Guys, I know it can be avoided. I have this exchange with people all the time, giving or taking something from their hand. But I rarely see anyone touching so much and having the touch linger on. I am just surprised. It cannot be an accident because it happens all the time. I dont want to ask him either. What do you think in going on. Please know that he had been very helpful to me as a counseler. Thank you. Mature answers only.

Answer 1

It is what you think it is.

Lay the money on the table and always have the exact amount. If you happen to have change coming to you, since you go so much, just tell him to apply it as a credit.

Also, you can say during one of your next sessions, "My friend is seeing a counselor and has been for many years. Lately he's been touching his hand that makes him uncomfortable, he tends to linger. What should I tell him to do?"

Believe me, he'll get it.

Just to let you know, he's being unethical and crossing a very sacred line with you. I would do that, see what happens and then seriously think about turning him in or at least changing counselors. He is in a position to abuse and you won't be the first or last.

FOLLOW YOU GUT!!

Answer 2

I use to work at a store and would exchange merchandise or cash with customers. It caused all types of stimulation because I didn't know what it meant. But many people are comfortable passing things with the touch. If you are uncomfortable just in a laughing way say, that felt weird then laugh, if it is done purposely he will get the hint. If you aren't then don't say anything.

Answer 3

So. You are intelligent! You noticed and are asking what you should do. Big step in the right direction!
Others have said it before and I will repeat it. This social worker is in a possition to abuse his professional ethics and that seems to be what is happening.
OK. You have two choices,
TO PROTECT YOURSELF AND OTHER clients or patients:
1. Ignore the situation or,
2 REPORT WHAT YOU SUSPECT TO THE PROPER AUTHOITIES.
Best bet: Report it.
Reason: The worker may be taking liberties with other patients who are not as intelligent as you or are much YOUNGER than you. That, in itself, is the best reason to report what you have been experiencing.
Take care.
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Answer 4

He has already conveyed to you what he means or you wouldn't know. It is highly unethical for him to make sexual
advances toward you, but he is sending out a signal. He has been helpful but he gets a paycheck for it so it wasn't like he gave you something for nothing. If you will and can, stop that little maneuver as quickly as you can before you lose your therapist. Don't embarrass him, just avoid the touching.

Answer 5

It would seem like a good idea to talk about it with the social worker himself so as to clear your mind as well as the air. If you have heard about the processes of transference and counter-transference occurring in psycho therapy, what you are referring to may lie within this area.

Answer 6

confront him.you either tell him you like it or you don't. sounds like he is hitting on you. weather he is helping is besides the point. its not right to act like this, if he is a professional. next time its payment time. place the money on a table. maybe that way he will get the messsage. hope this helped.

Answer 7

He "has been" very helpful, but now during sessions aren't you thinking about this situation? I'd confront him and then find another good counselor.

Answer 8

I really hope this isn't what it seems! It would really be unfortunate to have to find a new social worker, but if he actually is "interested" in you that way, then you need to ditch him.

Answer 9

a closed mouth does not get fed....so just ask him.