Me and my wife have a 15 year old son and his girlfriend's parents we have known for years since they were little and they went out of town and so we said we would watch their daughter and she would sleep on the couch... well she has always been a very trusting and nice young lady and my son never gets into trouble but when I got up to check on her she wasn't on the couch and when I went in my sons room she was with my son having sex and I'm not sure how to handle the situation because I never did anything like that so my parents never had to say anything about sex or anything so does anyone have any adcive on what to do or say???
2007-03-15 10:03:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm a little surprised you don't talk to your son about sex! He's 15! This is 2007! What have you been waiting for? Walking in on him having sex? Where did you expect him to learn safe, healthy, responsible sexual practices? MTV?
My daughter is 10 and we have had very frank discussions about sex. If she's not hearing it from me, she's hearing it at school. And, chances are, she's not getting accurate information on the playground
Thank goodness we don't have cable! and our tv is rarely on! I wish I could say the same for the rest of the youth.
2007-03-15 11:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
unfortunately what has happened has happened. As far as you know, this may have been going on for a while...
a talk with your son is in order. He sure does know how, but he may need to know how to be safe...if you rag on him about "your ot having sex in this house", they will just go somewhere else...if you and your son havea good realtionship, he may just open up to you and fill you in...then when you have the door open, you could go over some of the things that boys and girls NEVER think of when they are in the act. responsibility here, for raising kids, financial, and the future...boys (I was one) never think with the head on their shoulders, it is always the other one on the stalk...
as far as talking to her parents...I think it may be better if they hear it from her (and I would give her a chance to do that first), because she is as much responsible...then, if no conversation has occurred, then I would bring it up so that her folks can talk to her about the responsibilities, et cetera...
good luck
2007-03-17 01:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and to her. Time to let them know you are disappointed in what happened. Let them know you trusted both of them and they let you down. Make sure it was at least safe sex. I believe I would share the information with my friends too. They have a right to know what happened. Make sure you son understands you aren't saying don't have sex, but you trusted him to behave as a gentleman while she was there. Explain to him that her parents trusted you to take care of her and keep her safe. Tell him now you feel you let your friends down. I'm mom to 3..one is a 17 yo boy.
2007-03-15 17:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off Mom or Dad, I would explain to your son and his girlfriend that you understand their having strong feelings for each other but that pre-marital sex is sin and it's not only sin but it's also not advisable as if she becomes pregnant as sometimes in sex, it only takes one time to happen, and that as long as he is in your house or under your care you don't want him to have sex, be it in your house or at hers. Sex is a special gift for a man and woman united in Marriage, and 15 is far to young to be having sex as the risk of jeopardizing their education is not healthy.
2007-03-15 22:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a 17yr old girl and i think that what theyve done is very childish.
talk your son and your girlfriend while her parents are there too and have a ... as much as i hate these talks... Sex talk.
.. but why would you let Her sleep in the couch and not him..
2007-03-15 17:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by acbmjbg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have yanked my son out of bed by his ear. Until she can go home I would get a lock and key for now. Those hormones are strong.
You need to have the sex talk with your son and his girlfriends parents need to have one with her. They need to be taught about the risks they are taking and how to prevent them.
2007-03-15 17:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's your duty to let her parents know their daughter is having sex. If it was your daughter, wouldn't you expect these friends to tell you?
You trusted both of them and they threw it away. It's up to you to make sure this never happens under your roof again. Good luck.
2007-03-15 17:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok please i beg you u have to bare with me when i tell u that is NORMAL . ok, sooo amny pple are having sex at this age. so i recomend not telling the girls parents (unless u wann b known as the dad who rats everyone out..) just like get her some birth controll pills and leave it on that. dont dwell on the moment. its past and u can re-do it. there just being normal teens... look at it this was, at least u know ur son isnt gay ... lol ... bat like seriosly i dont need to do anything. and if u must talk to them dont draw out the conversation. i know im repeating this but like i said dont dwell on it, dont tell the parents of the girl cuz if she wants them to know she will tell them herself and lastly lol get her some birth controll pills so she doesnt get pregnant
2007-03-15 20:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her parents as soon as they get home and let them deal with her however they want to. And you deal with your son according to your values and belief system...no need to yell, he's probably as upset and nervous as you are...but for goodness sake, DON'T GET THE GIRL BIRTH CONTROL. Honestly, I hope the person who suggested that is a kid, b/c I would hope an adult would know better!
2007-03-15 22:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by wv mommy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call her parents
2007-03-15 18:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by BLAH BLAH BLAH! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋