I will be turning 19 in september. for the past couple months all i have been thinking about is having a baby..i always thought i would be a young mom just like my mom but is it 2 soon? I have a very well paying job..im supposed to start nursing school in october is the thing...i have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now but we have been best friends for 6 years soo we are very close..he 2 has a very good job...everytime i see someone who is pregnant and talk about the joys of it i think i really want a baby..alot of my friends are pregnant or have children are ready and they are doing just fine..if anyone has some advice that would be great! thank you!
2007-03-15 10:01:40 · 22 answers · asked by verynervous07 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My name is Brandie i'm 19 yrs old and will be 20 in two days. I just recently found out i'm pregnant. don't listen to what anyone has to say. If you want a baby and you think your ready then go for it. but make sure your bf wants one too. you don't want to "trap" him. i had the same problem i would see ppl pregnant and want a baby soo bad. and all my friends have already had their baby's and they are all younger then me! so i wanted one really bad! If you are ready to give your life up for another life then i would say yes your ready, but if you want to finish your schooling then no just wait your time i will come! and if you decide your ready you can go to your local womens care center and they will give you a sheet telling you when your best time to get pregnant is, that is how we got pregnant! Good Luck and I hope this helps, if you have any more questions for me feel free to ask, my email is trouble0218@yahoo.com! i'm here for you!
Brandie
2007-03-15 10:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Boyce 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one who can decide if you are too young or not. I got pregnant with my first @ 19 and married @ 19, had him when I was 20. I endured so many issues with my child that I wish I was older it would have been easier to deal with
(he has epilepsy and other health concerns) I lived with my in-laws for a year because I couldnt' go back to work cause of her health issues. I have no health issues neither does her dad's family and their was no compications during my pregnancy but for some reason he suffers from quite a bit that they still cannot figure out w`here it comes from. I wish I was older when I had to deal with all this. I stayed at home and we were barely making it by. I wish I could have given him a better life when he was younger(3 now) but now I am making up for it, he and his sister have everything they need. Also you need to make sure your man is ready, you may be, but he may not be, my husband was 24 when I was pregnant and he was still adjusting to the idea when he was born. Just make smart decisions, and although you can give the baby a good life now, would you be able to when he comes and if their is complications? Also keep in mind, nnobody want's to hangout with a pregnant mom and when the baby come,s noone want's to hangout with a mom who just talks about baby stuff 24/7. I learned the hard way.
2007-03-15 10:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a baby now, it is going to seriously limit your schooling. Babies are more work than you have ever had to do before in your life. That's an entire human being on your shoulders, and adding a newborn to schoolwork is never a good combo. I'd also wait until marriage. That says your dude's in there for the long haul. Also keep in mind that you may consider your jobs good now, but the absolute cheapest you will be able to find childcare for is $100 per week. That's (again, at MINIMUM) $400 a month for childcare alone. Consider this very seriously. Having a child is a very rewarding and wonderful experience, but it's very stressful and a lot of responsibility.
2007-03-15 10:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly I got pregnant at 19 and ended up dropping outta school for the time being. So you really should consider going through nursing school first..get a good job THEN you should consider getting married and having a baby. But then you really should make sure you have your job secured so you can go on maternity leave and still keep your job. Good Luck just think about this before you get pregnant because it changes your life.
2007-03-15 10:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a mom is great.... but I didn't become a mom until I was 27 ( a year ago ) and I think it's best to wait. Get your nursing degree and settle into your career then if you and your boyfriend are still together and in love go for it. But give it at least 5 years.
2007-03-15 10:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by Wheelie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i am 19 years old and i have always wanted a baby at a young age like 18 or 19 and i got pregnant when i was 18 one month away from me being 19, and yes it was planned, i dont think it is a bad idea unless you really cant afford a baby, i dont make much money but i make enough to support me and my son... and my son is healthy and a happy little boy he is now 4 weeks old
2007-03-15 13:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by cheerbear61987 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, being around other pregnant women can pull at your heart strings, but...you have school and you haven't given yourself any time to enjoy life while you are free of the responsibilities of parenthood!! Wait a couple years and see how tied down your friends are! You haven't' had enough life experience yet to even truly know yourself yet!! You have plenty of time to have children!!! Once you have one, you can't get back what you've given up. Please give yourself more time. I had my fist at 20 and had three by 23 and it was way to soon for me. I'm 49 now and still missing the fun I could have had when I was young!!
2007-03-15 10:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by wish I were 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if u have the time to spend with the baby that it deserves and not have to depend on someone else to take care of it all the time and u can do it alot of it by urself than u should be just fine having a baby. Make sure who ever you have a baby wit u they have time for the baby too and might consider getting married.
2007-03-15 12:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
DON'T DO IT!!!!! Enjoy your youth, go travel, meet people, go to school, PARTY!!! Wait until your at least 25 because once you have children you won't be able to do any of these things. I waited until I was 28 and I'm so happy I did! I got all of my single traveling and partying out of my system. Now I don't feel like I'm missing out when my single friends are out on a Saturday night!
Don't listen to this either
"Lots of children who were raised by single moms don't really stay happy for long because the mom is so busy and cannot pay enough attention to the child"
I'm a single mom, I waited until I was mature enough to have a baby. It's not about being married, it's about being mature and ready for a baby! Alot of married people have kids and aren't good parents!
2007-03-15 10:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by LBuffo 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i am 19 years old and i'm 23 weeks pregnant with my first... i also have a well paying job but when i found out i was pregnant i was so scared i thought i was to young but when i told my mom she said you guys are pently old enough to start a family (my boyfriend will be 23 soon) its gonna be rough but i am so happy i wouldnt change it for the world... if you think you guys are ready to start a family then do it (you just have to think about taking care of someone 24/7)
2007-03-15 10:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by Kandie B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋