Please help me. I have been trying to get pregnant for three months now. I don't know whats going on. My husband and I have had intercourse every day this month, and twice a day on my fertile days. I don't know if either of us is infertile, but I've been off the birth control pills for the three months I've been trying. Please tell me. Am I doing something wrong? Are the birth control pills still effecting me even though I've been off them for awhile? Does anyone konw whats happening? One of us may just be infertile, but I really hope thats not the case. What do you think? Maybe I'm still just too young. I am 21. I would really love to know some ideas of why Im not having a baby. please help me.
Oh and by the way...I've had a pap smear and i was wondering if that can tell you whether or not you're infertile.
2007-03-15 09:13:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
A doctor won't even test you guys yet. You have to try for a year before they worry. Here are my tips for ya, I'm not a doctor, but I specialize in birth development.
1. Sex should only happen every other day. He needs time for his sperm to regenerate. You are getting quantity, not quality doing it everyday.
2. The pills affect every woman differently. It can take 1 month to a year for the effects to go away. 2-3 months is pretty average, so next month you should be fine.
3. Buy a cheap ovulation kit at the store and use it every day. You pee on it daily and it shows you if you are ovulating or not. Since you have been on the pill, you probably do not know your true ovulation time. This will really help.
My husband and I got pregnant using the kit for one week.
Best of luck, and don't stress.
2007-03-15 09:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by sushishishi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A pap smear can't tell you if you're infertile or not. It tells you whether or not there are abnormalities in the cells of your cervix, and how serious they are, whether they indicate pre-cancerous cells or not.
Three months is not a long time to be trying at all. Each month, you only have about a 20% chance of getting pregnant...not a big chance at all. And if you've just come off the pill, it's quite possible that your menstrual cycles haven't returned to normal, and that you're not ovulating yet. For some people it can take six months, or more. You can't assume that you'll ovulate on day 14 of your cycle. If you're not charting your fertility signs, or using ovulation predictor kits, it's hard to say what might be going on.
I know it's frustrating, but start charting-you can learn more about charting from the website fertilityfriend.com or the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. That will help you figure out if you're ovulating, and what your patterns look like and when prime time to have sex is. Most doctors won't even consider a fertility issue if you're under 35 until you've been trying for at least a year, unless you have another diagnosed health problem like PCOS that can cause fertility issues. Keep trying, keep charting, and it will happen.
2007-03-15 17:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by Erika G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're infertile and no, a pap smear can't tell if you're infertile. The first thing you're doing wrong is having too much sex. Having sex every day can actually decrease your husband's sperm count. I'd cut that down to every other day. Your egg can be fertilized 24-36 hours after you release it, so making love every other day will take care of that.
Do you know when you ovulate? That could be another issue. Yes, most women ovulate about on day 14, however, I ovulate on day 9 so my husband and I were missing the boat a lot. I suggest investing in an ovulation monitor or purchasing some disposable ovulation sticks available at major drug stores. Good luck honey. Hang in there, three months isn't really all that long. It will happen soon.
2007-03-15 19:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by Super Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A pap smear cannot tell if you're infertile.
I could not get pregnant until the fourth month after going off the pill (even though I now get pregnant if you look at me funny). And the average time it takes to get pregnant is 6 months, so there is probably nothing wrong. Try to ease up on having sex until it is your fertile time, then once a day is fine. Try to put a pillow under your butt afterwards and lay like that for 20-30 minutes. This did the trick for me!
2007-03-15 16:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you need to relax. Three month is not a long time, and definitely not time to start worrying. Have fun, stay calm, don't panic. A pap smear will not tell you if you're infertile. If, after another 6 months or so, you still haven't gotten pregnant, talk to your doctor.
2007-03-15 16:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by kalsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. 3 months is not a long time to be trying. Docs will only start talking to you about a fertility issue if you've been trying for a year with no success.
But you can help yourself in the meantime by reducing the amount of sex you're having - twice or even every day sex actually reduces hubby's sperm count and hampers your chances of getting pregnant. Try every other day around your ovulation time.
2007-03-15 16:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I am not a Dr.
But my advice is to relax and stop stressing so much. You are young and havent been trying that long so I don't think you or your husband are infertile.
Make sure you are tracking your period correctly and when you begin to ovulate. Make sure your are intimate with your husband during this time and are trying positions that allow deep penetration such as missionary. Then once your husband has came make sure you stay lieing down for at least 30-60 min with hips elevated a lil to aid in conception.
Good Luck
2007-03-15 16:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by peachtreecity404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋