I remember back when my fiance and i had just started dating it was all so new and so exciting. Then when he asked me to marry him, it was even more new and exciting, but now we've been so stressed out about money, weddings, family, everything, that everything is starting to get routine and that spark is gone. We still make time for us and we still love each other, but is there any way to get that same feelings back that we had when we just started dating. I'm not sure if anyone understands what i'm talking about, but any advice would be nice.
2007-03-15 08:46:32 · 12 answers · asked by Andii 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That feeling when you see a really great first kiss??
That tingly feeling you get when seeing him for first time ina while...
It doesn't come back really.....thats the begining of a new relationship...its so intense.
Once your happy, you more content than tingly.
Don't get me wrong, 6 years and 3 kids later I still get tingly for my husband, just not the same way......
It was all so new at the begining...new unexplored territory.
You have to make it stay with you guys...do unexpected things.....meet him after work at a bar in a trench coat with nothing on under it...let him know...make him finish his drink before you leave......Even if its not this extreme, you get it right.....make your own new and exciting whenever you can.....Good luck, and stress SUCKS:)
2007-03-15 08:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by ste.phunny 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, my dear young lady. Just the two of you back off, don't worry about getting married, you got all your life to do that. I don't know how you get the spark back, I don't think that it works that way. The best you will ever treat each other is when you are dating. Sorry, it goes down hill from there. If you two love each other, that will help a lot, but you have to work at it every day, and on the best of circumstances it is not easy. Sorry, I would never do it again, twice is enough for me. G
2007-03-15 09:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by hog rock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to understand that your relationship had progressed and so it will never be exactly the same as it was before since you know each other very well now.
Take some time out and make it a rule that you do not under any circumstances talk about the issues that are your day to day stress triggers.
2007-03-15 08:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I don't really want to go back. It was cool and I loved the new feelings and the excitement. But I think where my husband to be and I are at emotionally is an evolved thing. I like how we've grown and I like the new feelings, even though they aren't "sparky." But, I wanted to get to this part anyway, the we've been together awhile kinda love that grows each year into something more kinda thing. It feels good. "The enemy of good is perfect."
2007-03-15 08:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lady M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 04:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of that feeling was the excitement of something being "new." So try new things. Sexually and non-sexually. Mini-trips on weekends, mini-"adventures." It can be anything. Dance classes or martial arts. Whatever. The fun of trying new things together can recreate that feeling, in my opinion.
2007-03-15 08:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by romipenne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Postpone the wedding hold off until you can afford it . If its getting bad now whats it going to be like a few years down the road
2007-03-15 08:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk and reminesce about how you first met or your first date, or even his proposal. it always makes me feel good, and it should make him remember too. if you do that first, and subtly mention how you miss some of those things, he should get the hint. don't expect changes right away though; it might take him a while to muster that back up. :)
2007-03-15 08:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by Chael G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the other guy. Get back into the shape you were in when you two both felt great.
2007-03-15 08:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by orderless1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try something new. go somewher you have never been before. the experince will bring back the sparkle that you two first shared.
2007-03-15 08:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by yesmadperfection 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋