high sex drive than my husband....?

Question

i've always had a high sex drive and when my husband and i married at first of course it was great. several times a day...several, well 6 outta 7, days a week. we were goin at it like newlywed often do. we're still in that newlywed phase...been married 6 mo. and we're expecting our first child together in oct....but it seems as if his sex drive has gone down and mine is still there, raging away. how do i convince him that i'm NOT a nympho and that i just want to be intimate with him?? and by intimate i don't mean just intercourse...there's more to it than just intercourse. i want him to touch me all the time, i want him to satisfy me all the time. i feel like i could cheat on him in order to get satisfied but the thought of another man disgusts me. i want him and only him. shouldn't he be thrilled to know he's so desirable to me??

Answer 1

Just tell him what you told us. Honesty helps!
btw, can I get some of your dna and graft it to my wife? I've got the same prob! Honesty didn't help in my case... d'oh!

Answer 2

That is funny b/c I'm the same way right now. When my husband and I first got married, I wasn't really interested in having sex very often. He wanted all the time! He thought something was wrong with me b/c I didn't want it but now...oooo girl, I can't seem to get enough. I guess you can say that I was a late bloomer=) My husband still gives it to me sometimes when I ask for it but it appear to me that he can't keep up for some reason. He gets tired quickly and I'm still pumped up.
My opinion, I think it is wonderful that your husband is so desirable that you want him and only him. Ask him if he is bored or something. Do he think yall are having sex too much or just want to switch up? You never know, it might not be you at all, it could be him. Sometimes men lil soldiers stop marching like they should. But to keep from killing their man hood, they will not say a thing to their wife about it. Try to have a serious conversation with him about the ordeal and let him know that you are thinking that you are doing something wrong. Is that the case? Honey, continue loving that man b/c believe it or not, Men LOVEs attention just like women. Men needs love too not always women!!!!

Answer 3

There is no "fault" in this situation. He was probably saying it as a compliment, so take it as one. And I think it's true that it's impossible for you to be there for him every single minute of the day. Do you guys have a guaranteed schedule so that he can still get his, but during the times that you're not available, he doesn't feel turned down? Because when a guys is turned down too much, it hurts him to the very core sometimes. You can also be there for him when he wants to release himself. You can lie in bed and look alluring while he handles business himself. Or you can use your hand or mouth at times that you just don't have the time or energy to give him your entire body.

Answer 4

Well, you said you are “NOT a nympho”, but still, you even admit you have thought of cheating just for sexual pleasure.

Obviously, you do have a problem.

Many guys, in fact most guys would love to have someone like you, but then, after a while, things change. Don’t forget, too much of something can be the same or worse as too little.

There has to be a balance. And you are a little bit out of balance to my opinion, towards the good side if you ask me ;) but still, it could cause problems in the relation.

If you are pregnant now, sex is going to be postponed a little bit, at least, intercourse. Maybe you guys can play around, but intercourse could be bad for the baby if not done carefully. And usually after having the baby, women tend not to want sex for a while as well.

I don’t know if that is the case for you. But if yo are still wanting sex all the time, then think about what your husband is thinking. He might be worried about the baby, or maybe he has problems dealing with you and the fact that you will have a big belly soon. I personally find that very sexy and beautiful, but some guys don’t like it too much or not at all and is not their fault.

I suggest you talk to your husband, and be honest about your feelings, and hos much yo want him, and ask him to be honest too and to let you know if he feels you are overdoing it. Just ask him to tell you his concerns. Then work it out together.

If he doesn’t feel like having sex one day, and you do, go and grab a dildo and masturbate (of course I’m talking more likely about after you have the baby). If you can , let him watch, the next thing you know he will jump over you. And if not, then is ok.

Same with the touching, you like to be touched, so don’t be afraid to ask him. Let him know you like that, grab his hands and guide him, I’m sure he will learn very quickly. And he will do it again and again, both sexually and romantically.

And if he is not wanting you right now because of your belly and the baby, then search for safe sex while pregnancy, so you both can enjoy it without worrying. And if is just the looks (the belly), then find positions that can cover it up, or give him some pleasure with your hands or oral (I’m sure you are into it, right?). But even better, get naked in front of him, sit next to him, and let him feel the belly, and let him hear inside, let him feel that baby, is his baby, and he will probably not only get use to uit, but learn to like it and be happy about it.

Again, try to balance things, try to hold it too if you can, besides, you will be more exited the next day if you hold it. get some distractions, go out together, have fun, go to the beach, or a park, or the mall, or just take the car and drive to a new place you never been. Try to enjoy your matrimony not only for sex, but for everything in life.

One last thing. I noticed you kept on saying you want to be satisfied all the time. I suggest you try to control that feeling because you can not be satisfied 24/7 and you know that. And for every time you want to be satisfied, make sure to return the favor to him. If he doesn’t want to, then is ok, but otherwise, satisfy him too. See if you can do it all the time, so you know how it feels like.

I think you will be ok, as long you talk to him, and try to balance things together.

Good luck, and congratulations!

PS. Have lots of fun too!

Answer 5

Sometimes I run into that problem, but I find it easier to let him have his space because I've been on the other side to. I've had exes that were always mad at me because I didn't want it as much as they did.

It may be difficult for him to be intimate right now because he's dealing with alot of emotions over being a dad. That's a hefty thing for a guy and may take him awhile to adjust to. Be patient!

Answer 6

I think you are oversexed and he probably is losing interest over the frequency. Even if you just crave the intimacy that comes off as being very needy. Plus some men find pregnancy a turn off - either they don't like the look or they are convinced they are endowed enough (LOL) to actually hurt the baby.

Answer 7

I think it is completely natural since you are pregnant, hormones are on "overdrive" and you are bound to get some effect from them! My husband and I went through this ocassionally since he was scared to hurt the baby... we just find other ways pleasuring eachother... foreplay is the key word.

Also try not to be focused on quantity more than quaility... enjoy eachother, soon baby will be there and there won't be much time.

Also, it never hurts to stop by the adult store and pick out some goodies : )

Answer 8

Your hormones are out of control right now, it's pretty common to feel undersexed when pregnant. He may be scared of hurting the baby. He may still be adjusting to the thought of being married and now having a wife whose body he'd have to share so quickly. Give him time.

Answer 9

Sometimes merely talking out the situation with your husband will work. Simply explain the problems and develop the alternatives that you spoke of in your question. Explain what will work to satisfy you and let him know.

Answer 10

There is such a thing as oversexed. If you constantly need to be fulfilled, you might be a nymphomaniac. Not that it's a bad thing, but it could cause you problems if you go out after more all the time.

Answer 11

Maybe he needs variety some men are like that. think of it this way if you feed him the same thing for supper 7 days a week he will get sick of it sooner or later. try some kinky things and i mean things he thought you would never do.