My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 yrs. For the past 3 yrs things have not been going well in the bedroom dept. We get a long great he is my best friend but we have sex about 2X a month. I know he is not cheating, we have gone to therapy and it worked we were doing great but once we stopped going, the sexual intimacy also stopped. He is a great guy, he is everthing I always wanted but the sexual intimacy is no longer there. I want to stay with him but I feel I can not live like this. Should I leave the man I consider my best friend and everthing I ever wanted or should I stay and possibly feel like something is missing in the relationship.
2007-03-15 08:38:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Absolutely not. You already said he is everything you want, and you have that one area to work on, so work on it. If you went to counseling and things improved, continue with what the therapist said and do it on your own. I'm sure the therapist gave you things to do, so do them. Also keep the communication open and let your boyfriend know how you feel, that you miss the intimacy and really need it. Also, make sure you treat him as you want to be treated. Are you letting him know you want to have sex, are you giving him hot oil massages, massaging his feet, leaving him notes in his lunchbox or jacket? Are you calling him with suggestive hints for when he gets home from work? Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-15 08:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is why I do not believe in living together. If you love this man and you consider him your best friend, then I would work at trying to improve your sexual life together. What you are going through is also what happens in a marriage sometimes too. Sometimes its because children come along and the stress of the kids is enough to put a damper on sex between husband and wife for quite a while. All sexual activity slows down after a while in marriage and when people are living together too. It is a natural process. There is a comfort zone, and quite frankly there is a little boredom sometimes. So what I advise is to spice things up a bit. I don't want to tell you what to do..you would know I am sure. Also try to get away for a weekend maybe to a Bed and Breakfrast with the jacuzzi, candles, champagne, lots of romance..you need a change of scenery. So that is what I am advising. If you love this man, and he loves you and there is no other circumstances why the intimacy is gone, then I would make plans to get married now. Why not make a true committment? Don't you want children? Then it will be like you are two people who met and fell in love all over again...You can make it happen and only you. I would advise a total committment of marriage, and see where it goes.
2007-03-15 15:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you got something good, you better hold on real tight to it. Have you tried chair dancing for him? That'll bring the sparks to the bedroom. You need to be more creative I guess.
2007-03-15 16:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by NicOOd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex really shouldn't be a determining factor in leaving someone who is supposedly your best friend and everything you've ever hoped for.
If you're to the point where you have to ask someone else if you should leave your boyfriend though, that's not a good sign.
2007-03-15 19:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by Hillary M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him you stick it out with him right?
2007-03-15 15:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋