Is it better to live with someone before you are married, or to wait until after you are married to move in?

Answer 1

3 rules with this:

1) move in before you get married
2) move in before you get married
3) move in before you get married

you never know what sort of things are going to drive you crazy about your partner (and not crazy in a GOOD way). when you live together, you see that person, at their best and worst, 24 hours a day. if you are a neat freak, and they are a total slob, when you are dating, they may clean their place up for you. but when you live together, you get to see that. they let their guard down.

its also the best way to get to know a person on a daily basis...no one is hiding behind the facade created by a "Dating" scenario.

Answer 2

I shocked my very conservative and Catholic parents by moving in with my finance before we got married. Very smart thing...we knew we were in love (and still are!) but we got to know each other a lot better during that time, which made the pressure of making the first 5 years of marriage working a lot less. I think we would have been fine regardless of that decision, but in the case of other folks, it's not a bad idea.

Answer 3

Morals is married first. Date a while ask the important questions. Do you want children ? What are your beliefs ? What are your goals and dreams ? Make sure you both want the same. Don't think you can change him after marriage it doesn't work that way and he may try to change you. So take your time and make sure this will last because divorce is like the death of your spouse. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 4

I think it's better to live together first. What if your new spouse has tons of quirks that he has at home and you only learn about the after the marriage?

Plus, planning a marriage is stressful enough, imagine trying to move into a place at the same time. It would be a harsh reality after the honeymoon was over.

Answer 5

If he can get what he wants without committing to marrying you then he will never marry you. And even if he did, you've already started a trend of getting into something with the option of backing out any time. The marriage would most likely end in divorce.

Answer 6

I think that it is a good idea to live with them first I lived with my hubby for 4yrs before we got married .I learned all his annoying habits and of course how to retrain him before we got married.We have been together for 20yrs,got him trained pretty darned good if i do say so myself.You see you,ll be able to see what it will be like before you make a big comittment like marriage.It worked out great for us.At least that's my view on the subject.Good luck on whatever you decide.

Answer 7

Personally, I would prefer to move in with them before marriage....so I can know what I am getting myself into before hand. Like, some peoples habits in their own home are different then how you may handle things in yours. You want to have all that figured out before you get married......marriage is hard enough.....

Answer 8

I'd wait about 35 or 40 years after marriage to move in together. Been there, done that.

Answer 9

Live together first. You need to test out the water before you jump in. There are so many things to work out before you make such a huge commitment and if people tried it out first there might not be so many divorces.

Answer 10

I was brought up that "shacking up" was wrong, Period! BUT, I gotta tell ya...living with somone 24/7 is way different than leaving them and going to your own space...and you can't truly know someone's true colors, until you're picking their socks up out of the floor, and wondering why they left the toilet lid up....or why the heck he slobbers on his pillow at night, or lets his mother control him. I'd say, it's better to shack up for a bit and live in sin, than live in HELL for years cuz you took a chance without knowing all the facts. (or at least most of 'em)